married sexdadvice?

Question

I know I'm bad but here goes. been marrid for 16yrs. i'm very affectionate,imaginative,erotic,sexual, wife is not. I havebeen pulling her along the whole time, but she does not have the sexdrive, interest, imagination to fulfill me,she is super,super beautiful, and sexy visually, so my excitement hasbeen spurred on by that. plus she has become far more sexual and eroticthan when we began(omg has she!) But Im still unfullfilled. I always wanted DDs, and she has Ds. i still crave for them. She doesntdo other things I wanthardly ever, Orl, Anl, using her hands. brings no ideas, no challenges,but I on the other hand do everything you could (I could imagine) to her. I evenfound pens sleeves to make me bigger so she can experience differnt SIZES whenevershe wants. (and she cant tell the difference from real) Sheis totallyoverly satisfied, and i am not satisfied. She loves me, I feel same. But I am frustrted, dissatisifed, Shegets more frm me ThanI frm her. I feel cheatd, frustrted whtato do?

this is true situation. All suggestion have been explored except counseling. I have talked to her about this every year for many years with her response of "i will try to do more" but she falls back into same routine time and again. i ve got her to watch porn for ideas, techniques, i've bought books, (she wouldnot read them), got her to goto sex shops, (shows no enthusiasm or fun, light heartedness), suggested 3some, swing party, (flat no to that)and more talk, talk , talk, but always endssame doing same routine of disinterest yet she says is interested. actions speak louder than words. and yes there is a difference between DD and D. i know this sounds terrible of me i acknowledge, but how do I get my desires, ideas i want to have and share out of my mind? they keep coming to the surface.

Answer 1

i am in the same boat with the woman I'm with. they just don't seem to get it do they. we want more than just putting our penis in and coming. i have many times to tell my lady this but it always ends up in a fight. as for anal or oral i have only gotten oral twice in 11 months and anal once, i to am very frustrated, so if talking doesn't do any good, we have tried having a few drinks and that will lossen her up but she still doesn't seem to care about my wants and desires, so u and i have to decide if our love for these women are enough to overcome our sexual needs and in my case the answer will be no, i like sex more than love and if im not happy in the sex depart then the love is no good either. good luck. i just wrote to tell u that u are not alone. there are a lot of men who do what ever it takes to satisify their women and the women don't care enought to do the same.

Answer 2

I am you in the bedroom, but you have to learn how to curb your enthusiasm and take note that you will not always be satisfied in the bedroom. I am a nut for good imaginative sex, and the partner I have now is all about the in and out motion. He likes to give and receive orally, but there is no sucking of the breasts or fingering of the vagina or other body parts, he's basic. But, when he slings the d***k, he slings it just right and he even gets into the corners. That for me is enough and he's a great sensual kisser. Those things help me keep my vivid imagination in check. Don't force her to do anything, when we are forced as women, it takes away from the enjoyment of pleasing our partners. We much rather be led along than made along.

Answer 3

How about talking to her about this?

Maybe if you make her notice, she will start making an effort to satisfy you more so that both of you can have a healthy sex life.

Talking things out, calmly and with understanding, is always the best choice. The most healthy couples are the ones with more communication and that are not easily-offended.

Appreciate what you have, by the way.
A D size is perfect, why would you want more than that?

Answer 4

It sound to me like she has improved since you are together. Don't throw 16 years of marriage out the window by cheating. You may want to see a sex therapist for some answers. Do you talk honestly with your wife about concerns?

Answer 5

pens sleeves huh. ok. i find that amazing that a man could tell the difference between a D and a double D.

i dont think that "She is a D and i really want a double D" would be grounds for divorce but you could give it a try.

annulment maybe.

let her read this, if you didnt make up the whole blasted thing entirely

Answer 6

Have you talked about this? Have you asked her what her fantasy is? Try getting into what she fantasizes about. Instead of getting down and dirty, I can almost bet that she wants some romance and surprize. Women tend to fantasize more about situations and not so much positions. If she is excited emotionally i bet she will open up more physically. And you may also find a better satisfaction in it as well.

Answer 7

You should talk to her about this, I've seen marriages desolve and end because communication about sexual fulfillment wasn't addressed. Therapy can always help. I hope the following web site will help you out.

Answer 8

talk to your wife about this not a bunch of strangers, me and my girlfriend have an open relationship in terms of telling each other our true feelings with out getting upset, i haven't had an orgasm with her in like 3-4 years out of 7 years i tell her that and i don't feel cheated cause shes satisfied and i wasn't or haven't, some times its nice to do things with out getting rewarded, it sounds like you dont comunicate well , i have no idea if you do or not but this is something you need to talk to her about

Answer 9

You need to have a frank and honest conversation with her concerning your needs. The talk must be outside the bedroom, during a neutral time. Express to her what you have expressed to us. If she is a reasonable person, she will agree to things that she feels comfortable with.

Answer 10

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