Is it possible to grow one's own love for oneself as a baby then kid growing up? Or is it solely the parent's duty?
2006-12-01 02:26:23 · 9 answers · asked by summation 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I grew up in a bad situation and never felt any kind of love from my parents, so I had to figure it out on my own.
I craved it so much it became my only dream in life to find love, but it never happened.
Never really got into self love, I always felt if I gave love the other person would give it back. That doesn't work either. :)
2006-12-01 02:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People instinctively feel that they are not being authentic, genuine or whole when they just look at the surface of things. In order to investigate our own identity, we have segmented self into pieces of "things". We have the ego, the personality, the Spirit, the Soul, the conscience, the consciousness, the essence, the unconscious, the collective conscious, the inner self, the higher self, the inner child, all sorts of parts and pieces of the whole. What is frequently lost in this investigation is the wholeness of being. The different parts and pieces aren't real, they are just concepts made up in the head with a label (or word) plastered over it so that the mind can try to understand that which it can never truly understand. There is no soul apart from the whole. You and I are not separate and time doesn't really exist, only now is. We are outside of time. Time is just an errant thought form. Now is not a moment or a part of time. Now just is, always.
2016-05-23 07:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think home training plays a role on reaction and coping with things.....But loving oneself comes from self esteem and knowing who you are and what you want. Alot of that comes from family taught but yet as you get more insight on life and more mature you become more yourself and cater to that. We are all born individuals with the only thing guaranteed to be in common is we make our own choices. So depending on your age, it is self taught. Because only YOU can tell you what you like or dislike. Parents just "control" that for a short time and guide but it's up to you in the end. Best wishes!
2006-12-01 02:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies and small children need interaction from parents/caregivers to feel love. How is a child to know what love is if they have never received it? I do think it is possible to learn to love yourself as you get older and can interact with the world around you. But parents/caregivers play the most important role in a childs life and in teaching them about love.
2006-12-01 02:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by LadyBanshee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that we experience love from our parents first-hand when we are kids. Then we ourselves learned to love when we grow older. From friends and family members we also experience and give love. Love for oneself is actually instilled on us. If you don't love yourself, it also means respect and self-esteem is low. Love can heal many wounds either from chilhood or from relationship later in life.
2006-12-01 03:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Terry Chan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it stems from the parent / child relationship. If a child is neglected by his parents, he will usually think that he did something wrong and is not worthy of love. It would therefore be difficult for him to love himself as he would probably be blaming himself for how his parents treated him.
But if just one parent shows the child that he is loved, he will feel proud and will believe in himself.
2006-12-01 02:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good parents teach love and respect for one another!
2006-12-01 02:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents ..but bad childhoods and bullies in school and bad boyf girlf relationships early on in life can really be detremental to confidence...and u loose self repect...u have to have good friends..
2006-12-01 02:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋