Do I tell or ignore?

Question

So I have a friend who has a really bad drinking problem, and I know I should tell someone to get her help, but I know she wouldn't want me to tell anyone her business, so I asked her. And she told me that if I told she wouldn't stay my friend and tell everyone that I'm somekind of $LUT. Do I tell someone or not? (I know I should, but do I want her to find out and diss me?)

Answer 1

I think you know what is the right thing to do. If you let your friend go on drinking without trying to help her, then you aren't a good friend.... Friends help each other when they are in need..... even if the friend doesn't think she needs help, she does!
You might be chancing your friendship with her, but you will be doing the right thing.....
Why not go to one of your parents and talk to them about it? See what they think you should do..... this is a hard thing to be part of, but I know you will do the right thing!
And your friend will understand someday, it might take sometime, but she will thankyou someday! Just maybe not right now.... but it is your chance to save her......
Be the friend that you know you should be.

Answer 2

If her drinking has gotten to the point where she is distructive then as a friend you should let her parents know. What if she gets behind the wheel of a car and kill herself or someone else because she was drinking and driving. How would that make you feel knowing that you could have told someone and you didn't because you were afraid that she would go around telling people that you are a slut. You know that you arent' a slut so what who cares what other people think of you. You are trying to save her life and if she hates you for it at least you will have done the right thing. She will forgive you if she is a good friend and if she doesn't think of the lives that you will have saved keeping a drunk driver off the road. Hell ya you tell someone and be proud that you did because drinking is a dangerous game to play and anything could happen to her when she is drunk. Guys could run a train on her, she could be in an accident, she could drink and drive and kill someone, the options are limitless!!!!!!!!!!!! Do the right thing and tell if you really love her as a friend.

Answer 3

No i wouldnt tell. If you are good friends that is what she needs as in someone to confide to.She knows she has a problem with drinking and telling would make it that much more worse. Now on the other hand hope she doesnt get behind the wheel while intoxicated. That would be a whole new ball game. I might be tempted to say something then. Is her friendship worth her getting herself or someone else killed?

Answer 4

I think if you really care about your friend you will tell someone so she can get some help. If she is alcoholic she can't help herself. A big part of the disease is that she is very ashamed of what she is doing, and losing the alcohol is like losing her best friend...thus she wouldn't want you telling anyone. If she accepts the help she will be grateful to you in the end.

Answer 5

How old is your friend?
If she is underage tell her parents! She needs help. She might be mad and hateful in the beginning but she will come around once she gets the counseling she needs. The fear of her spreading bad rumors about you should be your last concern. Your reputation has already been established. If you have always been a decent girl no one will pay much attention to it anyway.

Answer 6

That isn't a friend, someone who threatens you. A friend is what you are, someone who cares about their friends health/life. If she is going to be stubborn then all you can really do is be a friend & watch her & kind of be her babysitter. I'm not sure how old you are, but maybe you can secretly tell her parents & make sure they know not to say a word about you. So they can be more aware of her problem.

Answer 7

The best thing to do is to tell someone, perhaps her parents, or someone who would be able to get her the help she really needs, like AA or something.

If you are a real friend then you would be willing to sacrifice your friendship with her to help her. In the long run she will thank you for it.

Good luck!

Answer 8

If you had her problem, would you want her to get you some help?I think you would. If she continues on this course, she will get sicker and sicker and may end up getting into all sorts of trouble or killing herself. You don't want that for your friend. I think I'd take the chance that she'd never speak to me again and get her some help. (Frankly, I think she WILL appreciate it someday...but it may be awhile.) Tell her you love her too much to let her sink into alcoholism. You want to help her, and you will. Nobody will believe her stories about you, by the way, if she gets into rehab. I'd tell a school counselor first, and maybe your parents..;to get their input.

Answer 9

Yes...she'd probably won't like you at first...but after you tell her parents...(or her siblings maybe??) and get some kind of help/therapy and gets out of this misery she'll love you and cherish you for the rest of her life.
However,please make sure that her family won't physically or mentally hurt her or anything and that they will support her. If that's the case then forget about it...don't do anything cause u'll probably make things much worse for her and you'll regret it!!!
Take care!

Answer 10

You have to weigh in your option, tell someone of her drinking problem and risk your friendship or dont tell anyone her problem and risk losing her completely? If I were you, then I would tell someone of her drinking problem and risk the friendship cause in the end, when she sobers up, she will want your friendship back especially when she realize that what you did save her life.