How does it happen that a person hates one's parents when the parent provided for food, shelter and clothing? To love one's parents, must there be more connection than by food, shelter and clothing?
2006-12-01 02:22:45 · 10 answers · asked by summation 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Hate is a strong word, I disliked my parents for awhile, but my reasons were just. And I could never hate them. I do belive there are situations. Say for instance, they are too young to fend for themselves and they get abused by a drunk or are forced to work meaningless chores.So yes they get food and shelter, *shrug* Just a thought. And my reasons are not those listed, just hopeing to offer insight.
2006-12-01 02:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by matthew (acidjesusin3d) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all parents live up to the expected obligations of a parent which is more than food, shelter, and clothing. How can a parent hate their children?
Food, shelter, and clothing do not equal love by any means. It is a necessity to have those things. To love is to care and have compassion to be fully involved with something or someone. To give birth and follow the obligations of society so you are not put in jail is not parenting. Mental and physical abuse is even farther in the wrong direction.
Love has nothing to do with possessions or money. To love is like having a constant fascination and concern for something or someones well being. To love is to put your time and effort into something so it is to the best of it's ability.
Children are not toys. When they are neglected, broken, replaced they tend to hate the person responsible. There is more to love than basic maintenance. And when people go beyond the boundaries to harm their children it is more than enough reason to inspire hate.
"Unconditional love" is just a phrase. There are certain conditions where love is no longer an option and hate and apathy are more favorable. It depends on the individual and the circumstance.
2006-12-01 03:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by obscure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, one can hate their parents. When their father abused their children for years, molested his daughter, cheated on his wife, when their mother saw this all happening and did nothing to sto pit. She didn't call police or take her children and run away from it. So, yes, one can hate their parents.
Food, a roof, and some clothes does not constitute as love. Love comes from within, from the heart, the mind and the soul. Love is given in words and actions. Anyone can get & give food,clothes and shelter. These are material objects that you can find anywhere. Love from a parent is completely different. Abuse is not love!
2006-12-01 02:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making a very big assumption that all parents provide food, shelter, and clothing. Most do--gladly and with love. An unfortunate few do not. There are also parents who are totally vicious to their children in terms of abuse. A friend of mine cut off all contact with her father as an adult. She says it was because her earliest memory of him is him throwing her against the wall as a child. He never owned up to his behavior or expressed any remorse. She felt it was much healthier for her to move on then waste her time trying to make a relationship to someone who has never shown anything but hostility to her very existence. Those of us who grew up in happy families (and I count myself fortunate in this regard) are sometimes very naive about what goes on behind the doors in the families of others.
2006-12-01 02:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate my mothers personality but I love my mother because she is my family . . .but I do not agree with the life she leads and the actions she chooses if she were not my mother I wouldn't have anything to do with a person like her.
by the way at age 16 when I got a part time job my mother charged me rent to live in her house. (my father had passed away)
2006-12-01 02:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can provide all those things. But to hurt your child, by messing with there mind. Hurting there emotions to much. To make them feel inadequate, or not acceptable just the way they are.... those are the worst things a parent can do other then physcial abuse
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2016-11-30 00:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by minogue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It also depends what else the parents did. Beating, abuse? What about just not showing any love or affection?
2006-12-01 02:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my dad fed me, clothed me, gave me a roof over my head, and came into my bed for sex everynight...thats how someone hates their parents.
2006-12-01 02:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-01 02:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋