trying to get pregnant?

Question

no protection for the last 2 years...all tests normal..and yet....how come those who want a baby have to wait and others just seem to pop one out!!! all my friends have kids....iam almost bored of 'trying'...it feels like a chore..and so difficult to focus on the lovemaking and not 'babymaking'...boohooo...need a morale boost please

Answer 1

I'm in a similar situation and actually just talked to my doctor about it today. The last time I actually got pregnant was 2 years ago and I miscarried only 2 weeks after finding out and it was due to my progesterone levels being too low. So now that I decided to start trying again (its been almost a year of trying) I finally decided to stop worrying and take some action. So I bought the Clear Blue Easy fertility monitor and am trying to chart my basal body temp so that I can have more to report to my doctor. She also gave me prometrium to help with the low progesterone.... so I guess I would suggest the same. Go to the doctor - have your levels checked and maybe even have a ultrasound done to make sure everything looks normal as far as your ovaries go and then take the next step in trying. And don't worry yourself. Stress is not good for baby making... enjoy it! Good Luck!

Answer 2

Quit trying so hard--seriously. Rather than concentrating so hard on worrying about if this is going to be the month that it finally happens light some candles, put on a CD of romantic songs and enjoy some slow dancing with your man. When it comes time to go to the bedroom, don't just automatically get into position and start, but allow yourselves the time to thoroughly enjoy each other. A friend of mine had tried for 5 years to get pregnant, the doctors had even told her the only way she would ever have children of her own was if they took her eggs, fertilized them and then implanted them back into her. She had the appointment to have the procedure done scheduled, but then another friend and I suggested she try what I told you--she got pregnant (the natural way) that very night.

Answer 3

If it has become a chore...then its not going to be fun for either one of you anymore...you need to lighting up...i know its hard trying for the first few months thats all i could think about everytime we had sex...this could be the time we get pregnant...since its been a whole year we quit having sex so much so it doesnt feel like such a big chore for us to do! and then when we do do it...its just like with candles or somewhere fun and sneaky so its exciting. You really gotta get this undercontrol and think of other options and playing around more or your going to wear your man out...goodluck to you lots of baby dust on us both!!

Answer 4

Try to not think about it so much, I know that's the last thing you want to hear.

Maybe decide to take a break from charting or timing and just enjoy your spouse. Sometimes finally making the decision that it's ok if it doesn't happen really helps.

My DH and I tried for almost 2 years as well. When we started to talk about the fact that maybe it wouldn't happen for us and that was ok (we would adopt or foster) suddenly we were pregnant.
good luck

Answer 5

Dont worry, sometimes its just easier for some and harder for others. Have you tried buying an ovulation kit? If so...are your periods regular or irregular? Its even harder if youre irregular. Tyr having sex as soon as your period ends and do it every ohter day. You have to try and catch your ovulation period. Im also trying and havent succeded so i know how you feel but its not the end of the world and it doesnt mean that something is wrong with you or that its never going to happen and being under stress doesnt help either.

Answer 6

Hey! Cheer up! I was in the same situation you were at one time. We tried and tried and tried and nothing. This went on for over 2 years. We had no clue what the deal was. We had both been checked and there was nothing wrong with either of us. Finally, we just gave up hope and tried to not think about it. We tried to become closer because for trying so long and being so annoyed we nearly fell apart. Then, my mother in law kept harrassing me saying that she thought I was pregnant. At first, I was really upset with her thinking that she was trying to give me false hopes. So, just to get her to be quiet, I took a pregnancy test at her house. Sure enough, I was pregnant! Don't give up. Just give it time. It will happen.

Answer 7

Aw I am sure it is frustrating.Has the doctor takled to you about clomid? I was on it for a month and got pregnant! It was awesome.

And I know that it's easier said than done, but just try to relax. I know many couples who gave up on trying and decided to get a dog. They got pregnant within three months! I think it just takes the pressure off.

Good luck to you guys! Hope to hear the happy pregnancy news soon.

Answer 8

I'm also trying to get pregnant. i had my first baby and 14, and now that he is 13 i would like to have another, i been trying too. all the test i have taken say there isn't any reason why we haven't had a baby. i want a baby so bad that i get signs that i am but just the next month to tell me I'm not.i was going to try next steps might they cost way to much. so I'm with u on this, u r not going threw it alone

Answer 9

Keep trying, It took my husband and me 1&1/2 years before I could get pregnant. Why not just let go of the "trying" bit and have some fun.

Answer 10

i think you are trying too hard. try to just relax and not think of it as a chore. plan a nice romantic weekend with wine,candles and music and enjoy yourself,you will be amazed at what happens with it.take time for each other and let nature do its thing. have a great time and best of luck to you.