My fiance is a very known Doctor in a small community. He was married for 27 years & now divorcing. His very controlling very angry ex wife made sure their three adult kids 18; 23; ;25, especially his daughter, sees me as the woman who destroyed the family. which is simply not the case. Their marrige was so bad they couldn't even fool the family pet. The community here embraced me and anyone I've met told me how glad they are that their favorite Doctor is with a woman who loves and takes care of him. I want to build a good relationship with his kids and make everything work out. It is very difficult at times, since his ex will not leave him alone, this divorce is not yet finalized & lookes like it will be quite a mess. He and I do live together in the same community. His practice is here. and I do not intend on hiding. I am sure we are ment to be. His ex wife is very verbally abusive, labelling me as a whore, so I try & do good PR when I can, so people will know me on my terms.
2006-12-01 02:21:22 · 15 answers · asked by artist-oranit.com. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you're doing all you can hang in there and keep you're composer. time is a great healer and ex wife will eventually get over it . ignore her and stay poisitive,
2006-12-01 02:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by jinx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 07:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you are what you are. What she says cannot hold any water of there is no truth to it. People will know her for the viperous hag she is with her mouth. Do not engage in any conversations with her or about her in any way. I am sure the temptation is great, but if someone says anything about her to you, simply say "I understand how she feels, but she is angry with the wrong person" and leave it be. In the end you will have nothing to be sorry for and her kids will appreciate you not trashing their Mother, even if she asks for it, don't do it, it will only blow up in your face. I would tread carefully with living so openly with the Doctor that it gives credence to her story that you are indeed a homewrecker and whore. Try not to give fuel for the fire, keep your personl business PERSONAL. Just cause people want to know doesn't mean they NEED to!. As to the kids, take your time, let things heal and do your best to just be a first class lady. After all, your reputation will be well known. Good luck!
2006-12-01 02:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First thing, Do not over text her. She will get annoyed and if you keep telling her "TAKE ME BACK I LOVE YOU." Learn here https://tr.im/FT7kf
She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.
She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.
2016-07-19 22:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. Keep your head up and have faith in your love. Don't pay any attenton to anything anyone else has to say. Your relationship is YOUR relationship. Also, don't retaliate against the ex. She I'm sure is hurt, and scared as well. Life as she knew it is now over. She won't want to blam herself of course, so you are the easy target. If you act in anyway that may seem childish you will be proving her right in her eyes. Try to stay out of the divorce as much as possible. And as far as the kids go, for awhile they will probably stick up for there mother, but eventually they will make there own desions about you and there parents.
2006-12-01 02:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by cromswife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are doing all you can. you will have a long road ahead of you with the kids and the ex (since the doc and she will be forever linked in the kids)
You should give it time. Divorce is a painful thing that takes time. Eventually she will accept the fact that you were not the only thing that caused her divorce.
2006-12-01 02:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by acullenhurley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/9Ppvf
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-23 17:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are what she says. You are involved with a man who is STILL MARRIED. You and he can fool yourselves that the marraige was already bad but those same people who are "welcoming" you are laughing behind your back. Sounds like he has NPD. You are in for a real treat. You have not reached heaven.
My ex was voted off two boards and kicked out of the country club by the same people he brought his soon to be new wife around. They lost all respect. Be prepared when that happend.
I know that you fell in love but we can choose who to follow through with. Now take your knocks. I hope that they are not too many.
2006-12-01 02:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stick your ground. I'm guessing that you are a lot younger than him and that is why the ex is calling you names. You know how women are.. she is jealous because you are making him happy and i'm sure you look better than her. Just try to ignore her and let the kids know that you are genuine with you feelings for their dad and they will learn to love YOU and not what their mom tells them. They are old enough to make their own decisions. Good luck. I know small town gossip is hard to deal with sometimes but you can do it...
2006-12-01 02:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by kdbnsc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do try not to get down to her level. Be the one with class and never put her down in front of anyone in public and certainly not to her kids. Even though she seems incapable, you might want to try a little compassion and try to imagine putting yourself in her shoes and try to feel how terrible she must feel about herself and her life right now. Other than that I would try to have as little as humanly possible to do with the woman. Time will heal things eventually. While you don't have to hide, also try not to flaunt your relationship in her face for awhile. Again, compassion, even for our enemies. It will come back to you dear!
2006-12-01 02:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as it was not your fault then you have nothing to worry about,but one should not get involve with a married man,you do not know for sure what their problems were,do not be fooled by the illusion of lust and desire,here is the test,if you are for sure,both in love,then you both should not have a problem moving away to start out fresh in a new place .
2006-12-01 02:40:59 · answer #11 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋