i have a bf....i would rather say we r husband and wife now....tats wat we mentally accept eachother to be....its just a distance relationship...he has seen me thru pics...but i havent...ive just seen a pic when he was 16yrs....we really love eachother.....more than physical more than mental....its just pure divine love.....but i find him really different....and weird tooo......everytime he gives me hopes of meeting....but.....at the end some excuse .....wich r convincible2 me.....neway i dont have ne other option than to believe wat he sayz.....i really cant imagine life without him....we r also planning to married in near future.......he has a completely different set of mind....i sometimes feel i really dont knw him...he doesnt have parents....watever i knw abt him.....is just thru him...i dnt have ne other source to crosscheck also....but hes completely on me....mentally........madly in love wit him.....plz guide me folks...really need help.....he is very spiritual.....
2006-12-01 02:08:03 · 21 answers · asked by kewl l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy has ZERO intention of meeting you!! Move on and find someone (in your town) to date.
2006-12-01 02:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can't be your bf or husband if you've never met. You don't even know if this is a grown man you are talking to! The sixteen year old picture is probably recent. You could get in big trouble for soliciting a minor. You don't even know if this is a man! For all you know this could be a group of kids in high school playing a game with your life. Get out in the real world and date! IF this is a grown man he's probably married or has mental issues. You CAN NOT be madly in love with someone you have never met. YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THE IDEA NOT HIM. You won't ever meet him, his parents are probably living in the same town as him and his wife and family. Sounds like a big liar and if you don't ignore him and move on with your life you'll regret wasting your life some day. Wake up honey, this has no chance of being anything more than humiliation, heartache and anger.
2006-12-01 02:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this guy is doing is jerking you around and probably because of the following reasons:
A) He's already married, with kids more than likely
B) He doesn't love you, he just wants a fling and
C) He's much older than you and a pervert
Cut your losses and find someone that you can actually SEE with your own eyes(not an outdated picture) and someone who loves you for you.
Think about this:
He says he wants to meet you, yet always has a reason why he can not
He only shows you a pic from when he was 16?! HELLO who doesn't have pictures of themselves
If he "loved" you, you would of met him already.
This is not love, its lust and there's a huge difference. Date someone from your own school and your own age! Believe me, you'll be better off without this dude.
2006-12-01 02:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably look like Jabba the Hut. If he sent you a picture from when he's 16, maybe he is only 18. Assuming you are both young, it's always nice to fantasize, but as for meeting someone to carry on a REAL relationship with, stick to guys you know that you can meet face to face.
2006-12-01 02:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by bklynshanti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you are so sadly deluded I don't know where to start! Your bf is simply a figment of the internet. Your bf is not your bf he your SIM. The reason you know nothing of him is he is married and having an online affair with you. Simply said you will never get to meet him in person, go to his house, meet his family, or see him on holidays. HE IS MARRIED and has NO INTENTION of meeting up with you. If you push, you will see, he will not show. Oh sure, he'll have EVERY EXCUSE in the world, the car ran out of gas, in the shop, his uncle is in town and can't see, and he broke his leg, spent all his money on yada yada yada and doesn't have any left over for gas, bought a headstone for his Gramma and now can't afford a bus ticket, stop me anytime, am I getting warm here? Oh yeah, emergency room visit, sorry, left your cell number on my dresser counldn't call to tell you.....blah blah blah......give it up and find yourself a REAL MAN in the flesh and in person. Good luck my dear!
2006-12-01 02:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem very trust ful like and probably gullable im that way too in things. Honey this man is playing head games with you. He likes to play you and on words tells you what you want to hear. just enjoy what it is just talk. If he really cared he 'd be with you by now. I'm sure he's trying to make you feel nice in his own way and maybe he can't be with you the way you want him to be so he's trying to forfill you in another way. but regardless dont' sit around waiting for him to come. You will only hurt yoursellf in the end. Just enjoy the times you talk and keep; it in your mind thats its not for real then you won't get hurt.
You will come to learn this in time. doesn't happen over night.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-12-01 14:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you really do not know him. How can you be in love, you've never even spent actual time with him to know him. All you know is what he tells you, everything he tells you could very well be made up. He could be total opposite of what he has told you. He could be a rapist, murderer. You have no idea and you are foolish to think otherwise. You need someone new. This isnt based on real life.
2006-12-01 02:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Yellowtulips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's very married and this is all a game to him. Get yourself a REAL man. If a man really loves you and wants to be with you, he will walk through fire to do it. This man doesn't want to meet you. He's playing with your feelings and he has no intention of ever meeting. Just let it go. You deserve better than words. Godloveya.
2006-12-01 02:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is for you to end all of that Internet-long distance-drama. What you need to do is focus on yourself and not settle or set yourself to crash and burn. Why would you get your emotions involved in someone who you haven't touched or seen eye to eye, or face to face.
Its time for you to realize that you have to be more careful of who you decide to open up your heart to. If you believe you're an awesome person, then don't settle for a Internet fairytale.
2006-12-01 02:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've never met him? He could be a total lunatic. Sometimes people are different in real life than they are on the computer. If you've never met him and he has no family, I would be very skeptical of him. If you have a feeling of him being weird, you need to trust those feelings. Our instincts are one of the most important signs that we receive. You need to rethink this "relationship" that you two have. It sounds very fishy to me.
2006-12-01 02:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this relationship sounds weird. It sounds like he is full of crap. He is leading you on is my guess. I believe you both are quite desperate (you more than him). I really don't see what your question is here. How old are you? How old is he? Have you been in a relationship before? I truly wish you well. Please give yourself some self respect and stop this thing until you know who you are talking to.
2006-12-01 02:17:11 · answer #11 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋