My husband wants to go to a funeral with the woman he had an affair with as if he's apart of that family. Also he believes as with her that even though they are not together that they should raise their child together "mommy and daddy"time. This woman is the main downfall of our marriage getting back on track and he's just as dumb to allow it. Why am I not strong enough to get out? Or Do I even want to? I don't know.
2006-12-01 02:03:07 · 15 answers · asked by latinamochalatte20052000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You obviously love the man. Do you have any children with him? How much does he have you interact with his child? How well do you know this other woman? Also, have you asked to go to this funeral? Maybe your husband did create some kind of bond with this family. If he is morning someone, you should give him the chance to grieve and say goodbye, but he should also allow you to support him and be there so that you may have a better understanding of his emotions. Feel free to e-mail me. I have been in similar situations.
2006-12-01 02:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by cromswife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no, what are you thinking? I bet you are actually an intelligent woman, but for some reason you think you deserve this type of treatment. Honey, stop and honestly think about it, is he worth the misery he has caused you? You are not obligated to stay in this marriage not for one more second. If you continue to hang on he will destroy every last fiber in you.
You are strong enough to get out.....just take that first step and repeatedly tell yourself that you will never allow him to have any control over your emotions ever again. Surround yourself with supportive people and new activities. Stay busy as possible. Courage lies within all of us, but you must take action to realize your own strength.
2006-12-01 02:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to be a family with this other woman, let him. get some self esteem and move on. an affair is hard to get over, much less a child being involved. He is asking way to much of you, and you deserve better.
2006-12-01 02:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me personally i would not ever accept this .....you had to know when she got pregnant HE has a REAL obligation to be a father to that kid he would be DEAD WRONG TO WALK away from his child now . I would have left the marriage when i knew a baby was involved you got YEARS NOW that she will have a right and reason to keep herself in your marriage. if you took him back i don't get why your surprised it's going this way it would not take a lot to see how that would turn out.
2006-12-01 02:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Desperate housewife season 3 episode 5-7..
2006-12-01 02:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by MissFretNot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. They both sound like fruitcakes. I would get out. Obviously he is still immature and cannot be a man about anything. I mean if he was stupid enough to cheat, and even to have a child! Yep, it time to pack up and leave.
2006-12-01 02:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This child takes priority over everyone else. The child needs to grow up with both of his/her parents who love him/her above all else. This little kid did not ask to be brought into all of this drama.
You need to act like an adult & move on. This kid needs his 2 parents now. Your husband chose to cheat on you. You are "dumb" to stay with him.
2006-12-01 02:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in a very unhealthy relationship. Get out of a bad situation.
2006-12-01 02:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and he wants to eat it too and you are making it very easy for him to do it! You need to find some inner strength and get the hell out of that horrible situation your in!!
2006-12-01 02:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's chosen her over you. Your letting his stick around lets him have his cake and eat it too. Your not strong about it because you're afraid. Until you let go of that fear he will continue to use you.
Cheers
2006-12-01 02:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋