My husband works with a woman he cheated on me with but he tells me nothing going on but my gut says different

Answer 1

Does your gut have any facts to back it up? On the one hand, since he's been caught once, he's guilty until proven innocent. On the other hand, if there's no reason to suspect him, if you're marriage is strong and you just don't know that yet, you don't want to destroy it by being overly suspicious.

Answer 2

The problem with cheating is, once the cheating is done, the trust is gone. And sometimes the aftereffects are impossible to shake. Also, knowing that once a person cheats, the chances of them cheating again are EXTREMELY HIGH. I would follow my gut, but before I kick him to the curb, I would do some checking up on him quietly! Since he has cheated before, he might be again and by the sounds of it, with the same girl. Why wait for him to confess, check his stories. If he says he is working late, drive by, is his car there? Call the office and ask for him. If he says he is bowling with the guys, go to the bowling alley and see. If he's there, fine, if she's there, not so fine. Be prepared to check on him many times. "Unfortunately, if you ask me, once the trust is gone, it is up to the former cheater to prove different, not me to prove he isn't a liar. If your kid lies to you, and you forgive him, do you take everything he says after that as gospel? Oh nO HECK NO! You make them earn it back, unfortunately, same goes for a wandering spouse. And they have all kinds of crap to tell you like "Oh baby don't you trust me?" No "Oh I can't live like this" Me neither and I'm still here "When are you ever going to forget I did this, I said I'm sorry" Say it again and again until you die, and I will never forget, but I am TRYING to forgive and you have to give me proof now that you aren't lying/cheating "If I am going to be accused, I might as well do it" Might as well pack while you are at it, cause you won't be back. Its hard to get over someone cheating on you, but trust is a huge issue and once its gone, getting it back is difficult and a long road back to a solid relationship and some of that must fall to the cheater to be responsible for and have to deal with. I would determine if my gut feelings had any reality and if they did, that would be it for me, if they didn't, then I would try and work past it and realize my feelings of hurt are making me mistrustful and have my husband participate in activites to reassure my faith is not misplaced. Good luck my dear, sounds like you have your plate full!

Answer 3

I can answer this in 2 ways I can say follow you gut but you are probably just thinking that because he cheated on you with her or I can say believe him. Just show up at his job a couple of times unannounced

Answer 4

Wowwww.. I would say trust your gut!! I hate cheaters. If you honestly feel something is going on..find out for sure. Make a friend at his work and have them snoop for you. If you are wrong just no worries but if you are correct..then you shouldn't waste another minute of your life on him. Good luck!

Answer 5

yeah well......can't always go with that instinct. I think you'd better keep an eye opening for any other little signs that happen to pop up along the line. "Gut instinct" has never been good grounds for a divorce.

Answer 6

Sorry !! i wouldn't trust him or her. Go with your gut feelings. If he had any respect he would change jobs asap. You cannot be asked to trust him working with a woman he fooled around with.

Answer 7

Instincts are in us for a reason! If he isn't doing anything wrong, he will respect your wishes and consider a job transfer or a new position elsewhere!

Answer 8

I would say TRUST your INNER feelings, tell him how you feel if he doesnt do anything to make you feel better about it, Then you Should NOT be with him-he will or is still cheating on you if doesnt do something to make you feel better about the sistuation, but he cant do something if you dont tell him how you feel

Answer 9

Go with your gut.

Answer 10

Go with your gut...