Girlfriends of mine have recently gotten married and after a few months, I ask how's married life. I expect joyfulness and happiness in their answers, but they all answer with disappointment. What's wrong? What happens after people get married??? I'm single and want to get married one day, but the way people respond to marriage, I'm not sure now.
2006-12-01 02:00:19 · 13 answers · asked by damesha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is great! I am a guy, and I have been married for 35 years. Too many get married thinking that the honeymoon will last forever - well it doesn't. When reality hits them, they become disappointed. A lot of people don't consider all of the facets of marriage, especially commitment. When one or the other (usually the guy) doesn't live up to the commitment, it compromises the other's feelings and you have disappointment. My advise to you is not look at others results. Each marriage is between two individuals (a man and a woman), and the commitment issues have to be worked out. Before you get married, go through the different scenarios of marriage with your partner. Both man and woman must be willing to commit to the other. That may mean giving up poker night, shopping sprees with the girls, etc. - both man and woman must compromise to make the new life work smoothly. Don't let me scare you off - the new life of marriage can be beautiful. Is it a life of wine and roses? Yes, it can be, but don't expect it to be that way every day. Be realistic, chill out, and expect compromises. Guys have a harder time adapting to marriage in general. It was a learning experience for me, but I think I have done pretty well with it. Arguments are usually over finances, family issues, or commitment issues. Good luck with your married life.
2006-12-01 02:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by Doug R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People go into marriages with these great expectations of changing their spouse or with blinders on. Marriage is a wonderful lifelong companionship between two people that love each other more than anything in the world. Its the Love that helps sustain a marriage because the love is what gets you through all the ups and downs; and there will be plenty. Its a commitment of trust and respect which takes tons of work and effort by each person. Marriage is wonderful when both spouses remember to put one another first before everything else. Its what helps the foundation stay strong. Its not for everyone. But when you find the one you know you can't live without its the most joyous endeavor you could ever imagine in LIFE!!
2006-12-01 02:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely your girlfriends had an unrealistic view of marriage. It's sad to say, but yes the honeymoon does end. With marriage comes a lot of responsibility. You have an additional person to care for and support. You have another person whom also has feelings to consider. It's no longer ok to leave the toilet up, drink the last of the milk, or eat the last slice of pie. You have to consider if they want some too. then there is the finances. Marriage is hard. People don't get married because they think it's so romantic, they get married because it's the right thing to do and the best way to create a more prosperous future. Your girlfriends are probably just nagging about the downside of marriage. Why don't you ask them if they regret getting married? Their answer will probably suprise you.
2006-12-01 02:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. Maybe they went into marriage with high expectations of a fairytale. Meaning the guy did everything or they got to sleep late stupid little things like that. A marriage takes work on both parts. When entering a marriage you need to expect the unexpected. Nobody is perfect and marriage is hard work.
2006-12-01 02:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the couple,I got married at 18 because we were having a baby and his mother felt we should be married,that was 10 years ago and 3 children later and sometimes I feel that we made the wrong choice,we love each other but things do change over time so really put some thought into it first
2006-12-01 02:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by icequeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage has its highs and lows. The big thing that is difficult to deal with is that there is always someone there when you get home...I know...when you are single that sounds great..but everyone is different and it takes time to get two people in sync in the same house...also it is hard to have that "alone time" at first...but it does get better.
Marriage is a great thing if you find the right person the first time.
2006-12-01 02:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by acullenhurley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married a few months ago and I think its great! You get to know eachother on a whole new level and share a life together. There are ups and downs just like every relationship but your in it together and both took a vow for better or worse, so it is what you make of it.
2006-12-01 02:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women marry men, expecting they will change, but they don't.
Men marry women, expecting they won't change, but they do.
2006-12-01 02:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by gabluesmanxlt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it--it's a trick!!! Save yourself a lot of heartache and drama. Stay single!!
2006-12-01 02:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it suuuuckks, bigtime. Dont do it, just shack up.
2006-12-01 07:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋