do you think it's wrong of me not to do christmas at all this year? my family always gets together and it's just not me i really hate it...and i really can't afford it.. why buy gifts that people don't even really like? when i can go out and buy myself what i really need..what would i say to them about this...
2006-12-01 02:00:04 · 12 answers · asked by ~broken~ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I always bake cookies and goodies and give those as gifts. It's not only cheaper, but it's from the heart. Not like an expensive and cheesy pre-packaged gift set that's going to get thrown out or re-gifted. lol
2006-12-01 02:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by FairyGirl73 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, its not wrong of you to not do Christmas this year. But, you might want to explain to your family that you really can't afford it and they should understand. If you feel bad and want to do something, you can always do a card that wishes them the best of the season and maybe put a candy cane on it. It may not sound lavish but that's what I did one year. I was so strapped for money, had I not already had a tree and decorations, I wouldn't have been able to put that up.
And you know, if you don't like people, don't get them anything anyway. I went through that too and finally said, you know what, I am not spending my hard earned money on people I don't care for (these were usually people at work). Yes, the season is the spirit of giving but why spend money on people you just don't have the energy to look for something nice anyway. Scrap them. Go out and buy yourself what YOU want - that's the other thing I learned. I have three selfish boys and they really were ticked that one year I couldn't afford gifts for them (I usually spent $200 on each kid) and really made me realize that if I am giving to someone, I should WANT to give, not because I am obligated.
So that's how I do Christmas now. I want to spread the spirit to those I like and share the holiday with them. Not because I have to. But because I WANT to.
Enjoy the holidays the way YOU want. :)
2006-12-01 11:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that due to financial constraints and what you feel is a lot of hoopla over nothing....you are choosing not to participate in Christmas this year.
If it is just the money that is holding you back...you could just explain to them that you can't afford gifts this year but would still love to spend some holiday time with them. I hope your lack of gift giving cash won't prevent you from enjoying the SPIRIT of the holidays. Odds are your family won't care about getting a gift from you....but would miss your presence at the gatherings you are usually at!!
Happy Holidays!
2006-12-01 10:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get all the family to pull a name out of a hat and that is who you buy for. The best Christmas gifts to buy are gift cards if you are afraid that you are going to waste your money.
If your family can't do that for you, then just don't participate. You must take care of yourself first and if you can't afford it, then you can't.
Hope it all works out.
2006-12-01 10:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by MANDY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christmas means many things to many people. As a kid, I grew up regretting Christmas. My family didn't have any money and so it was always a huge disappointment. We live in a hugely capitalist/consumer society. You're literally bombarded just about everywhere you go by commercials for all sorts of garbage that you would never care to think about at any other time of the years. I for one, still don't care for "Christmas." Not in THAT sense.
Having moved to the deep south where it's all about religion, I suppose it's supposed to take on a different meaning. Still, we get bombarded. If you're not into family then, just explain that ypu're not up for it this year. Be advised that they will try and "Cheer you up." Good luck.
2006-12-01 10:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Doc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That should be your own personal decision. To me Christmas is about giving to others. I am 38 and I have 9 brothers. My little brother is 7. Everytime we go into a store where there is a toys for tots box he wants us to buy one to put in it. It can cost from $1.00 on up. It really makes me feel good to know that he (at 7 yrs. old) knows what it means to give to someone he doesn't even know that is less fortunate. To me that is what Christmas is all about. I feel like I can buy myself whatever any day of the year. Christmas is a time of year to think about other people.
2006-12-01 10:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by brandy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell them that you are not financially able to buy Christmas gifts this year and you are choosing not to participate. You can give cards to people or something if you'd like.
2006-12-01 10:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you dont have to buy gifts if you cant afford it, the real essence of christmas is giving, not recieving.
and for christmas season's sake. make peace with everybody
2006-12-01 10:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by notorious_xx 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do a 'secret santa' so everyone only has to buy one gift, and put a limit like 20 bux on it. then all is well. buy them a gift card to a store they like and let them do thier own shopping later....
good luck
2006-12-01 10:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Charmed 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you don't have the money this year to buy anyone anything.
2006-12-01 10:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋