I am in a realtionship with a guy who believes commitment, support and love are all thats needed in the realtionship. Intamacy and sex are not required to make it work. He is also the same one who believes 2 tops or 2 bottoms can be in a succeful loving realtionship. He is also the same one who spends so much time on his computer that there are times where he only stops on the computer long enough to eat and after eating right back to the computer until its bedtime. What do I do.
2006-12-01 01:59:48 · 10 answers · asked by mrhappy1171 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, it sounds as if you're not happy and not getting very much of what you want out of a relationship, correct?
Have you told him that you want more intimacy, more sex, less computer time?
Perhaps you should move on.
2006-12-01 02:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him like it is: You are not satisfied the way your relationship is. These things must change: he must pay attention to you, not give mixed messages by wanting to have orgies, but not to have sex with you alone; and he is to cut down by at least half on his computer time, and spend at least part of that time being with you or doing something else constructive. If he does not agree to take these steps to retain your relationship, then he is not worth saving, and you need to give him the boot. And don't back down. You need to give the guy some tough love, or you will end up playing second fiddle to orgies with strangers and a computer. If he's got to be dumped, the sooner the better so that you can work on getting on with your life and finding someone who will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. You deserve better. Good luck.
2006-12-01 03:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by steviewag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, intimacy and sex are important. So is sexual compatibility. The fact that he's on the computer as much as he is would tick me off. I think he should definitely be paying much more attention to you.
The 2 of you need to have a talk to see if you can work through this. You only get one shot at this lifetime, so make yourself happy.
2006-12-01 02:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy, he sounds like he would be better as a friend than a bf.
Speak to him, if it doesn't work out try & be friends.
My friend was with someone who was constantly on the computer. It eats your soul after a while.
2006-12-01 02:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by eauxquet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either get a new boyfriend or agree to have an open relationship.
2006-12-01 02:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Throbington Steifenholz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like either of you aren't happy maybe it's time to move on. he may also have some self doubts in his sexual performance maybe it's something you should talk about
2006-12-01 02:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The computer is a play tool, if he's playing on that, he ain't playin with you, ditch em.
2006-12-01 02:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by buldawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you're not happy with him (how could you possibly be, given the way he behaves?), so...break up, the world is full of possibilities;)
2006-12-01 02:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a real winner....find another guy.. the fact that you have to ask that question proves that your not that into him or his theories.
2006-12-01 02:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Gidgy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question.
2006-12-01 02:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋