ok here i go i want to tell people im bi but i am 2 scared 2 becuz my parents are against gayzzz. i really dont know what to do i want to tell people but im to worried about what people might think. HELP
2006-12-01 01:51:50 · 21 answers · asked by I Want To Suck Your Blood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
once you feel comfortable telling people you should just tell them
2006-12-01 01:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by aj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you are a teenager. The first thing you should do is find some help and support, people who understand you completely. Below is a list of resources for you. Please contact one of these organizations in your area.
Also, I am a mother of two straight sons, but I can tell you that I would love and support both of them, no matter what. Initially, this might be difficult for your parents to accept, but never lose sight of the fact that they are people too, and with their own issues and flaws to deal with, which may be no reflection whatsoever on you and who you are---your own true self.
This will sound strange, but through all the rough spots what we really are all here for is to become, and help others become, better, more compassionate human beings. You are part of that, and either this will change your parents for the better, or it won't. In any case, it is nothing that you have done wrong. Embrace and love who you are and the person that you want to become. You have a place and a purpose that are uniquely yours.
Sending you love, peace, and prayers of loving-kindness. All children are my children, and I love you!
2006-12-01 02:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by Darlene G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so easy to say "just be yourself". But you have people who love you and expect things of you and you have a secret you want to tell them. Maybe if you just cant face the reactions they may have, maybe you could write them a letter telling them how you feel and who you are. As parents, they would/should love you the same no matter what, doesnt mean they will be happy about it, but it shouldnt change the way they feel about you. Good Luck! and dont be afraid to let it out, you'll feel so much better once you have it out in the open, even if it upsets people.
2006-12-01 02:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well understand the way your parents work, the rammifications. Understand that if you must get out, get out...but be able to support yourself. If you cannot, hold onto a time when you can. If you have good friends who can hold it shut, you can tell them and expect them to not tell your parents. If you must act on any bi tendencies without the approval of your folks, understand the risks and rammifications. Act carefully, carry an arsenal or verbage and walk with a big stick of reasoning and confident ability.
2006-12-01 01:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by MadHatter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what other people think? You have to live your life in a way that makes you happy. That is the bottom line. If you were purple or green, would that bother you?
Your parents may not agree with your lifestyle, but they are still your parents. They are going to see past this and still love you.
Be your own person and enjoy life. It is far too fleeting to worry about what another person's opinion of you is.
2006-12-01 01:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bi to me seems like you are confused. Choose a sex, that might take some time but you will be happoer if you narrowed doen what you prefer. You are probably just experimenting and think it is fun to have sex with both sexes, but eventually you will decide on one and so in the meantime don't tell anyone.
2006-12-01 02:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u definitely not ready yet. r u mature enough to handle the scandals? because sweetie once u come out everything around will change. ur friends, ur family, and other people in the neighborhood will pointing fingers at u. so if u not ready to go through all that, save for later because the out come might be brutal or ur parents might take it well. anyway, it is up to u.
2006-12-01 01:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iT'S ALL ABOUT YOU AND YOUR HAPPINESS. If you are not living with your parents, then do what you want. If you are living with them, then you need to get your own place. That way you run the show. Don't just tell everybody. Let it slowly come to head. But don't worry about it.
2006-12-01 01:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by peanut44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what everyone thinks? it's hurting you worst just keeping it inside. you'll definitely find out who your friends are. just tell your parents. sit down and have a conversation with them and just tell them. they'll understand if they truly love you. you can't help who you like. don't try to just let the secret out. if you're not mature enough to tell your parents straight to their face, then hold the secret in until you are mature enough. always be upfront with your parents. you owe them that much since they gave birth to you and raised you.
2006-12-01 01:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by chica_dulce_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you living your life for you or your parents? You obviously want to tell people, so tell, at least to the ones that are supportive and understanding and won't rush to judgement.
2006-12-01 01:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of what you are,Tell the people who are important to you, your parents may be shocked at first but thy will get over it
2006-12-01 01:56:33 · answer #11 · answered by Bella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋