We are attending Christmas with his mother's family one day then both sides of my family the next and his father's family the day after that. During my family time his mother and father would like us to come to their house to open gifts. I have explained that Chistmas eve is when my family has always been together and I am not asking him not to go to his parent's home but that I would not be going to his parents. I am going the other two days. We have been living together for 2yrs.
2006-12-01 01:51:36 · 6 answers · asked by Maneater 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
I feel that you have a very good plan to try and spread your time between the families and his parents should not ask any more of you. Where have you planned some time just for the two of you? The parent need to realize the saceifice you are already making and he should stand up to them on your behalf. Good luck and have a blesses Christmas.
2006-12-01 01:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a toughie. I know what it's like to have long-standing traditions, and how important your family must be to you.
But please realize that his family has traditions, too, and I'm sure his family is important to him as well.
Holidays are tough, but try to find a way to compromise. It's about family, and even if you don't stay as long as they may like, they will appreciate that you've made the effort to visit with them.
My only other suggestions would be to a) tell them you won't be there this year, but will spend next Christmas with them (alternate holidays) or b) host Christmas yourself and invite everyone to your place.
2006-12-01 09:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem at all. NO ONE has to go anywhere they don't want to after the age of 18. Thats the cool thing about being an adult.... we all get to make our own choices.
I have not gone to my husbands family for Thankgiving for many years due to it conflicting with MY families celebration. He goes and has a great time...Good for Him !! Christmas is NO different !!
2006-12-01 11:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are married and we go to his parents house for Thanksgiving and open gifts with them then and then we see my family for Christmas, our families live in different states. You are lucky that you guys get to see them at all during Christmas, I don't think it should be a big deal! My husband would be thrilled if were able to see his parents at all for Christmas and I'd be thrilled to see mine at Thanksgiving. Good Luck and Merry Christmas, it will work itself out!
2006-12-01 09:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by lvminole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are giving his family 2 days and your family only one day. i would say thatyou can see his family on the days you gave them and leave your family with the time you have slotted for them. everybody has to realise that theres only so much time to go round.
good luck
2006-12-01 10:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by Charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you then it shouldnt matter at all
2006-12-01 09:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by beautynthebeast49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋