After our extremely painful breakup my best friend decided to take it upon herself to become my ex's boyfriends friend and emotion advisor.Which inturn changed our relationship as best frineds because I can no longer trust her not to repeat what I say to her to him and their closeness makes me really hurt. I have tried to talk to her all she say is "he's my friend now and I can't change that" She really doesn't care how this makes me feel and that our friendship is no longer the same.I know this wouldn't bother me if I did'nt still love my ex and he loves me. Our break happened because we're young and been together for 2yrs. We just need sometime to grow individually. My best friend is a factor between the him and I. Our relationship is none of her business and having her be his advise giver pisses me off and she could care less! It's to the point now she knows I'm upset and she's taunting me with little remarks and personal stabs. So I've lost my 1st love and my best friend. Sad!!
2006-12-01 01:50:17 · 11 answers · asked by renee' 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like she was never really a "true" friend to begin with. Although it's tough to swallow now, remind yourself that you really don't need friends like that anyway, and that it's her loss, not yours.
People like that usually, in the end, get what's coming to them by there own doing.
Getting over the breakup just takes time. For your own well being, try and get out with family and friends to keep your mind occupied for a bit.
2006-12-01 02:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Govt45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~I know exactly how you feel. Only my sister did it to me, they slept together and still share information about me. It could be very possible that your friend likes your ex more than a friend.
You have every reason to feel betrayed, because that's what they've done, both of them!
He was only your first, there will be many, more before you find the right one. It will take some time, but you will feel better. Lucky you found out how your friend is now than later hu?
Take it easy.~
2006-12-01 02:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you have to feel like this. it is not wrong to feel betrayed. A true best friend should have stayed beside you in a time like this and not do everything round. most probably, this girl likes your ex, this is the reason why she friends with him. do not feel sorry that you have lost your friend because you'll find a better friend than her, for sure. Two years is a long time and it was wrong for her to do this to you. you said that you broke up because you are still young, this means that you still have the chance to get back together with him. life is full of opportunities. don't give up
2006-12-01 02:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That once happened to me and it sometime to let go. Yesterday, I ask a girl that I was very proud if their was any chance I would be her boyfriend. I've always been very proud of her because she is an achiever and very beautiful and kind person. But she turn me down for her reason that her education means a lot to her. I understand and decide to give her some time until she's ready. My advice is to give it some time and I sure it will pass.
2006-12-01 02:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Luke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop them both out of your life and move on. She is a snake. My best friend/nanny went after my ex as soon as she hooked my up with my now husband. She went after him, knowing what a piece of crap he is, so she gets what she deserves. Unfortunately, I have a son involved, so I can't completely free myself of them, as much as I wish I could. She even convinced him to try and take my son away, skank. Good luck! It didn't work. Anyhow, there are people out there that will be loyal friends, tell her to kiss your butt. As for him, try to get over him and find someone better. He's out there somewhere. Happy hunting!
2006-12-01 02:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by firefly2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
farrrk i hate those sort of friends!!! ive been in your situation and if you felt like me you just feel like punching her lights out!!
well i think your bestfriend was jealous of what you two had and is willing to ruin your guys relationship,SHE wants to be the girl on his arm,SHE wants to hug and hold him when she wants attention-she wants to take him no matter how much you are hurting - BUT if your man really loved you and you know he still has feelings for you - all he can think about is you,hes talking to her in hope that she may re-kindle your guys relationship for you both,not knowing that this upsets you immensely,trust me he thinks that talking with her will get you guys back togeather because shes there to tell him anything he wants to know about you.talk to him when shes not around and youll see how interferring she has been. Good luck.
P.S-dump your friend shes not worth having
2006-12-01 02:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by rosita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel it's right to judge how or what you feel. Feelings aren't controllable; you just feel. How ever or whatever you feel has some merit, and I can't say that you shouldn't feel how or what you feel. Every feeling is justified, because feelings are a gift from God.
2006-12-01 02:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a good best friend you have??? I would move on from the both of them and find someone who you deserve as u can get alot better than this trust me!! there are plenty more fish in the sea!!!
2006-12-01 01:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Randall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop and think about why you split...also love is blind,when we regain our eyesight,we see the real person in front of us, you are jealous,remember why you left him ,do not blame your age,there where many problems......BIG Q WHY IS HE YOUR EX let him go
2006-12-01 01:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by bull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget'em
2006-12-01 01:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by Agent_Double 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋