Is is wrong to not like little children?

Question

I, personally, cannot stand children under the age of 8 for some reason. They just really get on my nerves, the way they always pause and say "um...." while talking. And the whole wide world revolves around them; TV programs are ostracized for indecency, radio stations can't play songs with objectional language, TV shows get canceled, movies get censored, blahblahblah....not to mention that every holiday seems to be geared towards them. And, get this, I can't even bring in a hot latte in stores, because the store clerks are worried that I might spill my coffee all over the merchandise....yet, they allow little kiddies to bring in their juice boxes, or their bottles, and they spill everything all over the place. So, is it morally wrong to not like little kids???? Maybe even hate them a little????

Answer 1

Personally, I feel that it is wrong to hate anyone. Basically you are saying that you hate anyone who is going to grow up in the world after you. Everyone was young once, which is why most people are understanding of things that can sometimes create a bit of frustration - not hatred. I hope you can soften your heart. Is it really that terrible that you can't have your coffee everywhere you go? Is that a reason to hate? Are you selfish enough to say that holidays are not fun enough for you because of children? What do you want...Santa to come down the chimney for you, an adult? How about Halloween? Do you miss trick-or-treating? Perhaps you should focus on living vicariously through the children in your life. Remember the joys of being a child, and love them for who they are. C'mon...soften your heart. :o)

Answer 2

I don't think it's wrong at all. In fact, I applaud you for being able to say it outloud! Most people feel obligated by society to LOVE children and animals and those who don't fall into that categorie often feel pressured to have their own children. Then they feel regretful, they're unfit parents and they end up very unhappy. I work with a girl who used to embrace the fact that she didn't want children. Long and short: she married a guy who did, had 2, got divorced and has now had CPS called on her twice. She never should have had them!
Don't let anyone tell you how to feel. Be glad that you recognize it. There is NOTHING wrong with the way you feel.
But on the other had, don't mistake the things you're feeling for BAD PARENTING! They mumble and say, "UM" because their parent is not teaching them to speak clearly. The Television and Radio thing is due to parents NOT wanting to police their own children. They just want to sit them down in front of a Boob Tube like it's a baby sitter. Holidays....yeah, those are geared towards children. As adults, we usually hate them! The food and drink thing,,,again poor parenting. When I was young I worked at the mall and watched a young boy rub his hot dog w/mustard and ketchup all over my glass display cases. I called his mom over (She was NOT watching him.) gave her some Windex and made her clean it up! So don't get the bad parenting confused with thinking that kids are rotten. I have one and she is my best little friend ever!

Answer 3

I can understand you have a problem with little kids... I wouldn't suggest being in childcare ...lol

I don't think there is anything "wrong" with you. There are many people who don't like children.

My brother gets very anxious when he is around my daughters. He loves them very much, but it is just they are so young.

I pause and say umm while talking. Many people do. If you have ever taken a speech class that is one of the major things discussed about peoples habits.

As far as TV , radio, & media goes... we have to protect our young people. You were young too and your mind had to be protected as well.

I think the we associate children with holiday's because they get so excited. I mean how many times has the Holiday's passed and you felt empty like you weren't even in the spirit. I know I did until my oldest daughter turned two. I suddenly felt the excitement again.

And, I agree about the drinks in stores. But, not all children spill things and not all adult don't. Either we should all be allowed to carry drinks or no one, with the exception of formula for babies.

Answer 4

Thank you for your honesty in asking what could be seen as such a delicate question. There are people who find members of another age group difficult to engage (children, teens, elders). You seem to have this feeling very strongly. It might help you to know that you are not alone, but that this kind of emotional response almost always masks a deeper personal issue. In other words, the kids are not the real cause of the reaction. Something deeper is troubling you and it comes from within your own experience, perhaps as a child. To find out you need support. I would strongly encourage you to find a good counselor who is well qualified and begin to explore this feeling. I bet in a short time you will find a doorway to a new, wonderful dimension of your life that you never expected. :) peace.

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with not liking children.. That's your personal choice and though some people out there might criticize you for that but just ignore them. I myself find little children annoying. I don't hate them but I don't love children either. That's why I've decided not to have children. Yes, I have been criticized for that because apparently having kids in society seems to be the norm. However, I would never cause any harm to children just because I find them annoying. Well hopefully you find a way to cope with your problems. Good luck and best wishes...

Answer 6

being a mother of a child of one under the age of 8 I should say yes you are wrong for disliking children but the honest truth is kids can be obnoxious and messy and sometimes. However my daughter does not pause and say um all the time that would be annoying and she is pretty clean. I don't usually like other peoples kids.

Answer 7

NO it's not wrong to not like them... maybe you just had a trauma or something.... but don't generalize that all children are the same..

I sometimes hate little children becoz they're so annoying and you must be kind to them just becoz of this and that.... but some children are nice and friendly...

I'm not so close with young children too maybe because I'm the youngest and never had a younger sibling....

Answer 8

I have 5 so I can understand why you don't like the little darlins'. Just kidding. People are born physically alive but spiritually dead with old sin natures so it is totally understandable how you could not like them. They need to be trained. I never thought about the coffee situation. It is your business if you do not like them. Peace out.

Answer 9

No, it isn't wrong for you to dislike little children. We live in a relatively free country and you have the freedom to like whatever you want to and voice your likes/dislikes.
I hope for your sake and (a helpless child) that you chose not to ever have children of your own. Because it is morally wrong and criminal to harm a little child. Children are people. And, in my opinion your hate towards children is equal to bigotry and racism....and those my friend are very bad qualities.

Answer 10

I pity you: children are the most beautiful thing on Earth, and if you cannot see that, it means something's missing inside your heart; really hope you'll never be given the chance to become a mother, 'cause your child would suffer too much with a mom like you. And no child deserves unhappiness.