we have children together and i have a son alone that is white, if feel when he talks about whites in front of the kids it will make them have a complex. and with me all i ever here is white women are all whores and hispanic women are sooo beautiful and great. is this enough to fight about?
2006-12-01 01:44:12 · 22 answers · asked by leigha s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is not enough to fight about it at home however is enough to fight about it in court and in front of a divorce judge. Why am I taking you to that route? the answer is simple, hispanic culture is very more guided towards male dominance. Many of them had this place into their minds since early age along with other things suchs as being romantic, passionate, generous and so forth (some of the things that you may have love about him from the beggining). Now, the line gets crossed, when you start to insult others and forgetting about that every culture is different. The statements that he is making it, are mostly in comparison to things in his past, or things he had seen. The problem could be that he was not able to conquer a latin woman since she may have seen this trait thru him early on. My first solution is for you to sit down and talk to him. If that doesn't help, go to the next step and put an ultimatum. I am an hispanic male (colombian) whom had prior relationships with american and hispanic ladies. So tell him to get his macho libre mentality out of his head, go to work and be ready to take the kids to the park this weekend and maybe you will help him relax otherwise the couch.... Feel free to reply to me as well
2006-12-01 02:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by SemperLeader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is the epitome of racist. Is it something to fight about? You tell me. Do you want your kids growing up to be racists also? Can you live with the fact your husband is outting you in that class of "white whores"?
If he thinks Hispanic women are so beautuful and perfect, why did he get with you in the first place? Time to kick him and his racist ways to the curb.
Put it to him in an ultimatum: either he keeps his mouth shut and learns some respect for other people (including you and yuor kids) or you are gone. You have to mean it.
Look at the Aryan Nation. What do they think of everyone who is not white? They teach their children this same hatred and it makes all of us whites look like racists.
Are you willing to let the cycle of hate continue? Only you have the answers and I think you know what the right ones are.
2006-12-01 01:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, alot of the white people who answered this question, are also racist, because their rebuttle was to call him names such as beaner, lazy etc. First off, Mexicans have many problems, one that they dont have is laziness.. If we are lazy, than how do your lawns get mowed, your children get fed/taken care of, your houses being built and your fruit being picked? These are task that white people are too lazy to do, therefore, they outsource. Second, leave your husband.. obviously, he decided now to stay true to his roots, and he knows exactly what he wants. Third, his comment about white women being whores isnt entirely far from the truth. White women have a history of being easy, and giving minority men(blacks and mexicans mostly) sexual favors that their native woman would not. These women then bore their children, and expect to be treated as an equal, when they are not. No matter how hard she tries, she will always be white and it annoys me when you guys try to speak with accents or try to act black.. Lastly, white woman will put up with s*** that minority women wont, this also being a reason why our men walk all over you(because you let them). If this was a Latina or brown sista, his a** would be gone. Learn to love and respect yourself, and eventually a white man will love you too. P.S. "HISPANIC" is a very racist term, so do not use it. That is a word, that your ancestors coined for us when they were beating, raping and killing us for OUR land.. im sure your kids do not like being called that if you have not raised them in ignorance.
2006-12-01 04:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by 920135 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How did you manage to marry such a bigot. He has serious problems and yes, it is definitely something to fight about. In fact, it's grounds for divorce. Your first son isn't the only white child in your household. All of your children have you as a mother. He is going to damage them emotionally if he keeps this up. What he is saying could also be construed as verbal abuse against all of you. He sounds like a controlling person and he's trying to make you feel like you're worth less than him because you are white. Don't let him do that to you. If he feels the way he does, I would have to ask him why he got with you in the first place. Save yourself and your kids by leaving him.
2006-12-01 02:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if you talk to him and get him to keep his opinions to himself, he will still have them. I find it hard to believe that you didn't know how he felt when you were first dating. His feelings had to have shown then. Do you have hate for yourself that you would get into such a deep relationship with someone who hates you and anyone that looks like you. What a mess. You should have asked your questions way before this. Get out if you can. If he's talking about it now I could see a time when he would start taking his feelings out on you and your white son physically. And yes its worth fighting about because what he's doing is called mental abuse.
2006-12-01 02:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Strike2? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a racist. You need to ask him to stop talking like that in front of your children. It's not fair to them to learn that white people are bad and only hispanics are good. That's called racism and it's fundamentally about hatred. Maybe your husband needs counseling for his anger.
2006-12-01 01:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee. This is verbal abuse. Do you realize what he is doing to you and your children. Run the other way get your children and yourselve away from this kind of man. You deserve the best in life not this trash. Let him have is hispanic woman , he will not treat her any better.
2006-12-01 01:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dump your husband that's stupid. It is possible for him to have made an exception for you. Just because he generalizes about whites that doesn't mean necessarily that he feels that way about you. You should tell him to keep his mouth shut in front of the kids because they will pick up his bad habits quickly.
2006-12-01 03:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure your husband is racist. I believe he is using this method to take out some form of aggression against you. Parhaps the two of you need to talk to an intermediary, priest or councellor. Just a suggestion without knowing the background.
2006-12-01 02:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by william a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is a racist and your kid is going to suffer because of it and i really hope you wont allow this to happen your kid need to be happy in this world you need to send your bean eating husband back to Mexico and why do you let him put you down he is racist against you what wrong with you are you afraid you cant find a good man that would take care of you and your son i think so and you are probley having money problem to and that scare you of leaving him because you dont know any one you could turn to.and it not going to do any good to fight about it because in the long run he is a racist and nothing going to change is mind and you know it.
2006-12-01 02:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋