In a recent question many homosexuals answered that the do not choose to be gay, unlike them I think (and I am homosexual) that you choose to be gay. You do not choose to be homosexual in the medical since of the word (and yes it is a medical word because that is how the word began, from people trying to cure homosexuality) but you choose to live a homosexual lifestyle.
You may disagree with this statement, but many homosexuals in the past have married, had children, and lived a very happy life. So why do you choose not to live in the closet as they did?
For me it is because I know I could never trully be happy by living a life as anything less than what I trully am - gay.
2006-12-01 01:34:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are born homosexual but I agree you choose to be gay, and you can choose your actions. I am married and I choose to identify as g0y. I choose not to engage in anal sex.
2006-12-01 01:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Please define "homosexual lifestyle".
A "lifestyle" choice to me is deciding if I will own a home or rent an apartment. Or throw money away on a condo. Or live by the beach or the mountains. Or in a city or a suburb or a small town. Drink wine or beer or maybe nothing alcoholic. Spend money on movies, or furniture, or save up for retirement. Those are all "lifestyle" choices.
Being "gay" (my preferred term) is who I am. The people who were homosexual and married, had children, and were closeted were poor saps, IMHO. The men were not necessarily the best fathers in the world, and how could they be---they were living a lie! And, in some cases, gay men and lesbians would get married just cover for families, society, etc.
I'd much rather be comfortable in my own skin than to pretend just to keep up appearances for the neighbors.
2006-12-01 01:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the choice comes down to choosing to be who you are or choosing to attempt to be who you are not how much of a choice is that really in practical terms? To choose the second alternative is to live a lie and to make for yourself a life where you are always swimming upstream. Yes that may be a choice. But is the price paid worth it? You might be making a lot of hatemongers happy but at the same time making yourself miserable. It's kind of like making a pact with the devil. And the devil, as we all know, frequently breaks his promises or finds some way around them.
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2006-12-01 02:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Seeker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't choose to be gay, I only chose to accept myself. Living in the closet is horrible. I have missed out on so much in my life becuase of all the self hatred and thinking badly about myself. I am not sure if I can go back to living that life again. God made me this way and I think it is only right for me to live the way God wanted me to. I don't hurt any one. I don't do bad things. I do my community service and am doing great in College. Now that I have accepted myself I have so much more self esteem and feel confident about myself. In short I am better person than I was before I accepted myself.
2006-12-01 01:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sui Generis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question.
Perhaps you are wrestling with the semantics of "choice" The "choice" you speak of is accepting what you are and living out what you are, as opposed to suppressing it.
Regardless of where gay originates, we almost all feel that these attractions we have are not something we choose to have. They were there before we knew what gay really means. The choice is when we decide to recognize this part of who we are and not keep it in the closet. To keep it closeted is to lie to ourselves and those people in our lives. To choose to not suppress who we are is to choose to live the truth.
I hope people will read your question carefully and not fly off the handle. Good question for discussion!
2006-12-01 01:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the terms of the lifestyle, that is a choice, I agree. But Nobody chooses to be attracted to the same sex
2006-12-01 02:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you do choose to live a homosexual life and embrace who you are but why live a life that is not true to you why make other people soo happy instead of yourself? is that really living?
2006-12-01 01:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mysolitude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a huge difference between being gay and choosing to act upon it. I was still 100% gay when I'd think about hot gay sex while phuquing my wife.
2006-12-01 02:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Throbington Steifenholz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't choose to "live a homosexual lifestyle", I choose to be true to my nature. Do straight people choose to live a heterosexual lifestyle? NO. It's what comes natural to you, you're not making a choice.
2006-12-01 01:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If God made all the people homosexuals then how could they have children, you mean by adopting children??
If it is normal thing,then why god created opposite sexes
2006-12-01 01:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋