I'm a psychology student who just wants to get some insight into women's perspectives on relationship. Is it the fact that he has more women that would bug you or would you just be afraid that at any minute you might not be his favorite wife anymore?
2006-12-01 01:27:23 · 12 answers · asked by bamimpire 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
... Let's say [since this is a hypothetical] that there is absolutely no question that 1) you are his favorite- if that's what you prefer OR 2) that he loves all his wives equally- if that's what you'd rather have. My question is does the mere fact that he has more than one woman bug you? Or do you think you'd be cool with it as long as he doesn't love anyone else MORE than you?
2006-12-01 01:43:29 · update #1
NO, I WANT TO BE THE ONE AND ONLY. I DONT WANT TO SHARE MY MAN WITH ANYONE.
2006-12-01 04:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by PRETTYGIRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want a husband who was polygamous. I just wouldn't want to get involved with someone who didn't have the same perspective on relationships.
If I did agree with polygamy, and married someone with other wives, then my perspecitive would be different. If I was truly polygamous (and not just hoping something would change one day), then I would accept the fact that my husband had other wives and shared relationships with them that were similar, but different from ours. If I was his favorite wife, or if he told me that, and I chose to believe it, then I would enjoy that for what it was worth. But truly, every relationship is different, and if I had a clue, I would realize it would be like a relationship where you call someone your best friend. You have many friends, but there is someone that you prefer to spend most of your time, or you enjoy your time most with that person. Some best friends stay friends throughout their lives. Most people, however, find that different friendships become deeper throughout their lives.
2006-12-01 09:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Teddy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Although I have kidded with my husband a hundred times to do this (it would be nice sharing the load around her with several other women), I don't think I could handle this. I am a monogamous creature and that kind of situation would make me quite uncomfortable since it is against my morals and values. My husband feels the same way but it honest enough to admit that taking care of more than one wife would probably kill him...
2006-12-01 09:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would not be good enough at all, if I only get one husband, then he only gets one wife. He doesn't get to sleep with other women and just say "oh but you're my favorite". Trying to compete with other women to be the husbands favorite is so demeaning, you would become completely dependent on him for validation, and he would have absolute power over you because he could crush your sense of self-worth so easily. I don't know why any woman would put up with that.
2006-12-01 09:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by Julia 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i would hate to be in a situation where some wives were not the favorite. how could that kind of a situation/family be happy.
playing favorites with wives i would guess causes problems.
i would not want to be a favorite wife. i think equality would be better to pursue in relationships. i would not see myself as a competitor of the other wives but a partner, player on a team.
just like a basketball player doesn't need to be the coach's favorite.
2006-12-01 09:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would NEVER, EVER happen, not in a million years! I used to be all for free love and non-monogamy, 'til I fell in love (we're still married and faithful...why should the GUY get more than one mate? Everyone knows one guy can't possibly satisfy multiple women!)
2006-12-01 11:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by SieglindeDieNibelunge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure that i could get into a relationsihp with someone like that in the first place, but if it were to somehow happen, i would want another husband, but to answer your question, i would be constantly comparing myself to the other wives, and yes i would worry whether i was aslways going to be his fave or if he just told everyone that they were his fave.
2006-12-01 09:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by ekenny513 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that some women think so little of themselve that they would allow themselves to be in that situation. Religion or not. That is NOT a healthy relationship and many of these women end up being abused.
2006-12-01 09:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I`m not married, even don`t have a boyfriend, but i think that i would not like to be whit a man like that, isn`t enough for him whit me!!!.
But that`s not the theme of this subject... so if i were i would be worried about AIDS!!! i don`t know but SIDA isn`t something i want to get.
2006-12-01 09:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no , It will bug me to no end. My husband of 20 yrs is having an affair he says he loves me but it not like that with this other woman. he kept talking to her I told him to get lost. 20yrs and 4 children 19yr Through 1yr. he thinks its OK.
2006-12-01 10:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by quinn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not!!! I wnt a loyal husband who's dedicated only to me. A marriage should be monogamous.
2006-12-01 10:30:39 · answer #11 · answered by zellie_753 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋