Mom of 3 and manless?

Question

Why is ti so hard for a single mother of 3 to get into a relationship. I am 26 I have 3 kids and I cant get into a relationship why?

Mt kids dont see there dad by his chose not mine if he wanted to he could but dont.

I am also not looking for someone to step up and take on that responsability that would be on them but that is not what I am asking for..

I dont have 3 different daddies and I work 5 days a week and I only have my income and nothing else

Answer 1

Most guys now days are alone and like their peace and quiet, it's possible four people in their life is to much to handle. But I'm sure there are guys from large families that would like the company though.

I like kids but I've always wanted to have my own so people with kids already kind of ruins that idea for someone that thinks as I do.

Answer 2

Mom,

Take it from another mom of 3.

I was a single mom of one. Unmarried. and struggling.

I worked hard to support my kid, and my self.

Give us a better life.

I had my own place, nice new car, and was paying the bills, with a little left over for fun.

Not much but some.

I never found it a problem to get a guy.

Just a good guy. And one that wanted to help me, not take from me or my kid.


So what I suggest is work on getting a career, or good paying steady job,

Build your own life , and better it for your kids.

You don't need to tell every guy you meet that you've got 3 kids,'
And especially don't go telling them you've got 3 baby daddies, if that is the case.

Just meet a guy and spend time with him, see what happens ,

Never introduce them to your kids, and never bring them to your place.

Wait until you really get to know them before revealing everything about yourself.

And before long you'll realize that men aren't going to take care of you an sweep you off your feet.

The only person who can make you happy is you, and your kids.

They brighten the darkest places of your heart.

And they take the lonliness away.

And as soon as your kids are 10 years old, you'll meet a nice guy
who loves you,

And you'll need to make a decision about marriage and whether or not you want it.?

Its always a choice,

Just focus on your kids and your self, and the romance will come when you have given up on it

And that'll be the beggining of a new chapter in your life, but remember your kids will always love you and be there for you.

Make sure you make them your first priority and sacrife for them,

and they'll pay you back , wait and see.

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Now as far as my life goes,

married stay at home mother of 3 boys and a dog,
got a nice house and new minivan, and money in my pocket,

we're not rich but he always makes sure me and my kids are taken care of.

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So remember, if you lay around the house acting like people owe you a favor, and not proving to yourself that you dont NEED a man.

the men you meet won't want you because they'll see an un motivated, woman, and a burden.

like attracts like

what that means is, hardworking people want to be with other hard working people.

Same as you.

Email me direct if you want to talk or need more advice.
Didn't have enough space on here to put everything i wanted to say.

hopfully it was helpful.

Good luck

Meg
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Answer 3

It's a very tough situation that your in, but not impossible. I married a woman with 5 children. It is difficult because you do not want to keep bring pretend daddies in their lives until you find a keeper. Be patient and look in places other than bars. I promise you will find the guy your looking for, a man that will love you and love your kids. Just be patient. Good luck.

Answer 4

hi...it is hard you are right, im a single mum of two....but its not impossible you just have to make sure you keep your social life busy. Do the kids stay at their dads or with family??? just go out and enjoy yourself as much as you can it will happen.......its bloody hard because alot of men panic that we are looking for a new daddy or they are not too sure about the kids and if thats the case dont bother with him,!! you are still young so dont give up hope. good luck x

Answer 5

If you haven't found a man that is willing to be with you because you have 3 kids, then he's definately not the one, or the man for you. Just be patient and you will eventually find him.

Answer 6

dont know,, where do you live at,, have you looked at cupid.com or match.com and seen what is in your area for men,

most guys in their 20's do not want to get into a relationship with a woman with three kids, that is alot of baggage,

your best bet is to find a movie buddy, dinner buddy for the times you dont have any kids,, not a live in or marrying person, and love and nuture your three kids,, love is love but kids are forever,,

Answer 7

It always seems that you cannot get into a relationship when you are trying to hard to do so. Stop trying to find a man and put your energy into your kids...you are better off without a man.

Answer 8

at 26 having 3 kids, waaw you should have been in some relationships before dontcha.

Personnaly I like kids. If you wish, contact me

Answer 9

You have 3 kids... you need to worry about those kids more then you need a love life.
Besides, the best things in life come to those who wait. Yes, I know that sounds a little cryptic, but it is true.

Answer 10

Focus on your kids the right man will come along and if he doesn't so what ? u are blessed with 3 children a lot of woman would be glad to have been blessed with only one.