My Bff told me she's pregnant and we're only 16! I don't konw what to do how can I help her and she said not to tell anyone but I have to what do I do?
2006-12-01 01:09:35 · 18 answers · asked by Kaylaluv 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell her parents. As a best friend, its you duty...do it before she gets into more trouble and pain
2006-12-01 01:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, having a baby at the age of 16 is too young. But if she doesn't want you to tell anyone then don't do it. Respect what she asks you not to do concerning her. What you can do is get an adult that you know she can trust and talk about it with that person. It will benefit her in the long run if she tells someone that she is pregnant, not you. Are you the one carrying the baby?
2006-12-01 09:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be as there for her as you can. is she keeping the baby or getting an abortion? support her whatever her decision, even if you don't agree with it. what she really needs right now is a friend by her side, she's going through a lot of physical and emotional changes. this must be hard for her. the best thing you can do is be with her whenever she needs you. encourage her to tell her parents, i know they will probably find out anyway but if she is planning to keep the child her parents need to help her take care of herself and her baby. tell her that her parents will still love her no matter what and that it's just important that both she and the baby be safe.
2006-12-01 10:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by kitkatladee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby is a HUGE responsibilty, and since your friend is a minor, it's going to be very hard. I'd talk to HER first before going to her parents; as much as you want to help, you should never go behind her back. Try to talk her into telling her parents, and that they can help her. They're responsible for her until she's 18, as you probably already know. Eventually her parents will figure it out; she'll be going through a lot of changes that are almost impossible to hide. But encourage her to tell her parents; it's the best thing she can do.
2006-12-01 10:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by goldie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't stress out... My aunt got pregnant when she has 16 and now has a daughter who's 12. You really need to tell someone.... It's really important! Then she can figure out what to do!!!
Tell someone, I wouldn't tell someone like her parents, because then you'd be losing her trust but tell someone who you know won't tell someone she knows, or talk to her about it.
I heard this story about this girl who didn't tell a soul except her boyfriend that she was pregnant (she was 15), and kept pushing the baby bump down, her boyfriend would stand on her stomach to keep the baby from growing.... Then she had her baby at school and nobody knew and she killed it! Tell your friend this maybe she'll be a little more apt to tell someone..
Good- luck!
Karina
2006-12-01 12:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be a friend. Oddly enough, you may want to rent the movie "How to Deal" with Mandy Moore. It addresses this issue, mandy moore's character is in a predicament similar to yours. Be there for her in this HUGE decision in her life. Don't stop being friends with her because of it.....she NEEDS you. Dont lecture her about not being careful, she is probably going to have enough of that as it is. And the guy above me who said that her life is over...he is an idiot. Just because she may have a baby doesnt mean her life is over. I know several people who had a child when they were young and they are happy.
2006-12-01 16:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by BetsyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell anyone. Just be BFF back to her and support her, no matter what decison she makes...whether it be to keep it, abort it, or carry it to term and give it up for adoption. I'm sure she's terrified and her parents are going to flip out when they find out. And I'm sure she's going to need a BFF more than ever. Be there for her and support her and don't judge her.
And I hope you'll let this be a lesson to you both...
2006-12-01 15:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing but, there it was a group of like 4 of us and she told us that she was pregnant. Just be there for her try not to judge her people are going to enough of that. Try to just be there and help her through anything that she needs help with. Don't tell her parents thats for her to decide when to tell them. Just be suportive of her.
2006-12-01 09:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by buggs8498 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of people in my grade (8th) lie about being pregnate.. i would first off make sure its true if she keeps saying it is you should definatly tell your parents or go straight to hers.... its important that you tell them because your freifs could get in deep s h i t ! so tell them everything you know and let them take it from there thats the best thing that you could do for a friend. they may be mad at you but you need to look out for her and one day she will thank you. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-01 13:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by why hello there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other responder...tell her parents. They need to know and she needs for them to know so she can get the proper prenatal care. Plus if she's only 16, it's very likely her parents will be supporting the baby financially, so they need to be prepared.
2006-12-01 09:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Doogie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell anyone. Especially her parents.. that is your frineds job. She will tell them when she is ready. Just be there for her as a friend and try to keep her spirits up... and her life IS NOT OVER!! (some1 said that above) it will just be a lot more difficult.
2006-12-01 14:39:39 · answer #11 · answered by Britni Gayle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋