Feeling unattractive?

Question

I don't know why, lately I feel as though I need to be more attractive for my husband. He is great, he hasn't said anything, maybe it's just in my head. Anyone else get this way?

Answer 1

I feel the same way sometimes and I'm a guy... I've gained some weight that I'm not proud of and it bothers me sometimes to think I'm not attractive to my wife, so it can happen from either partner!

Answer 2

All the time. But it's true that you should be happy with what you look like. If you're with a man that doesn't make you feel unattractive, then it is probably just in your head. On the other hand, if you've gained weight and are just not happy with yourself, you also have to be able to look in a mirror and like what you see. If you don't and there's something within reason that you could change, ie. losing weight, etc., I would have to do that if that's what it took for me to like myself. Your weight has alot to do with your feelings of attractiveness and sexiness. I know, I've battled with a weight issue all my life and both of my SO were small framed which didn't make it any easier.

Answer 3

You look great! Yes, I've felt like that on occasion, but it has only been fleeting. If it is a persistent thought, then I might seek some help. Usually If I feel that way I'll ask my husband if I'm pretty and he bombards with compliments. I'll go and get some new products, spend time on my hair and makeup, put a cute outfit on and go out. Take care of yourself!

Answer 4

hey i reckon alot of us gals have this problem sweetie,
i feel unattractive to my boyfriend sometimes when i look in the mirror some days and um unsure how to improve because he doesn't tell me i'm beautiful or compliment me but he's not much for sharing things like that. I have to ask him what he thinks of me and he said very nice things..........
Maybe you should change your hairstyle for something different and do yourself up for an intimate night at home with a nice dinner and make him see what a knock out he married....
good luck with it sweetie and hope your spirits get lifted.
take care and all the best

Answer 5

I have been there - here is my suggestion [Even on the day/evening you feel like the ugly step-sister and he's interested (ever had that happen?!)] instead of crawling into bed in you flannel nightgown say hunny give me 10 minutes... go to the bathroom/bedroom, where ever it is that you get ready and take the 10 minutes to make yourself feel beautiful - put on your favorite shade of lipstick, sprinkle on his favorite perfume, and put on his favorite thing - even if that's your birthday suit, (if you're having a really bad ugly step-sister kinda of day, put on Your favorie) Whatever gives you that little extra boost of confidence. Remember that he loves you, you love him, be commited to commitment. Not only will he notice the time you took for him (he will smell the perfume, and he will notice your enticing lips, even if he doesn't say anything) Men are visual not verbal. Look at yourself in the mirror and say "I am beautiful!" (outloud if you have to - it's nice to hear - especially if your husband isn't a talker like mine)
Self talk is very improtant - what I mean by that is what you say to yourself and think about yourself effects you more than what anybody else says or thinks about you - what do you say to yourself? what do you think about yourself? Change your mental self image. Don't ever say things to yourself like "I'm fat" or "I don't like my hair" or "I'm unattractive" Quit listening to the negative things that pull you down. As long as you reject yourself you will not be happy. Talk to yourself the right way, in a positive manner. "I am beautiful" "I am attractive" "Something good is going to happen to me today" "I'm a good wife" think good thoughts on purpose - don't put yourself down. If you don't tell yourself who you are, someone else will. God knitted you together in your mother's womb, and He didn't make any junk!

- Just don't talk to yourself (and people that aren't there) outloud around other people alot... LOL....

Answer 6

Oh yes. I think we all get that way. You should do little things to make yourself feel more attractive. For yourself. You will feel better and that will make you more attractive believe it or not. Try putting on your make up even if you aren't going to leave the house. welcome your husband home from work in a slinky little number. Have fun and remember you are definitely not alone.

Answer 7

Yes l am sure we all do sometimes. My husband always says l look fine but l know what you mean.It probably depends on how we are feeling inside as to how we think we look outside. I guess we all try to look our best for our husbands.You know what though, in all honesty l think they probably love us more for what's inside than outside anyway. I'm sure your husband loves you just the way you are !!

Answer 8

Yes, of course. We are bombarded by photos of impossibly beautiful, alluring women every day, everywhere in this country.
It isn't reality, you know this. You appear to be attractive and he isn't complaining. You might want to go to a local spa for a facial and a mani-pedi, so that YOU will feel better about yourself. You go, girl!

Answer 9

Yeah, a lot of women get that feeling now and then. It just means that you need to make more of an effort to feel good about yourself. Do what you normally do to feel good about yourself but add a little something extra.

Answer 10

when your husband hasn't compliment you that doesn't mean he doesn't think you're unattractive, if he compliments you all the time, you'll get tired of hearing it, it's better to let him say it when he wants to, it'd be more special.

I know my husband thinks I'm hot, he doesn't say it all the time. you just have to know why that your husband married you because he loves you and thinks you're attractive.