me and my bf don't mind bein gay and showin it but other people atc as if we discusting and we don't belong what should we do??
P.s we are bother in college
2006-12-01 00:58:04 · 33 answers · asked by poorlilemoboy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are suffering for no reason, act normal don't gay yourselves, to love someone is not necessary to be gay! what for, abusing your sex life! that's something momentary not real love.
Being a good friend is the best way to be, that is real love.
If I love someone of the same sex, which I do, I don't go gay about it. Just do my best to help him in what ever need he is into, and he knows that I love him so much. Hope nothing is wrong of my action!
2006-12-01 01:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Not sure what country you are from but if the UK then this is sad. However, there is still a lot of homophobia about so it is something you will have to put up with. Don't let it upset you. Just be who you are and enjoy your boyfriend. Try and avoid areas where the homophobes gather and are likely to be a nuisance of even a danger to you.
If you get a lot of abuse or harassment there are organisations that can help - e.g. Galop, who will give you support and advice.
Good luck.
2006-12-01 05:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let people dictate what you do. Showing affection such as holding hands hugging or an occasional kiss is great and I wouldn't let others tell me what to do. If the affection is going to far such as continually making out or dry humping this may be what is making people uncomfortable. I'm a lesbian and don't want to see two women going at it.
Where are you going to college? If it is a small town, people there may not take well to people being gay.
2006-12-01 02:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by butchblond5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you break your head over it:try not to be to openly affectioned to eachother,people your age are all struggling with their own sexuality.
Therefor it is easy for them to comment on you.
That is their way of having a moment off of their own issues.
BTW:Why would it even bother you:develop the skin of a rhino.
In your entire life you will meet people who think it is necessairy to comment:well let them ,show it slides of your backside like it is nothing.It will decrease with the years ahead:found that out myself.
I am very openly gay,and there isn't one person who will tell me how to live my life,ever.
Feel free if you need to IM me,don't need to hesitate about it.
PS:as I said in your other question:I am not hitting on you.
And the dude in the bathtub is not me:just a pretty actor,that's all.
Have a nice day:Rob.xxxx
See the subtitle under my blast.
2006-12-01 05:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as others have said, too much public affection from anyone is bad.
But I've been there. You just want to FU*KING WALK DOWN THE STREET holding hands without being stared at, called out to whatever.
I was open with my gf at highschool & although I was fine with that, it's hard when you can't walk 100m to the canteen without
Go for it, hold hands in public & whatever, don't feel ashamed. I know it's hard to not let it get you down, but I hope it gets better for you.
2006-12-01 02:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by eauxquet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Racism has been mostly tackled, sexism has been mostly tackled but homophobia is still alive and kicking. One day it will be tackled like the rest, I just wonder why not yet. I'm sure it could easily be different. The English could still be into slavery and gayness could be totally accepted. People are a product of what society guides them to think a lot of the time. I'm sure most of the people who have slagged you off for being gay would be unwilling to go up to a brown person and call them a packy or a ****** (there you go, yahoo answers even blanked out nig*ger, they don't blank out homo, bender or batty-boy though). Ignorant people piss me off. If you're not hurting anyone do what you like. And feel free to hate anyone who is nasty to you for being you.
By the way I'm not gay, and I'm not racist.
2006-12-01 01:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by schming2005 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be Yourself who cares what other people think they really are not important to you yea your in college but so am i and people stare and can say what ever they want cause even if you are on top of the world people still talk so let them if the feel uncomfortable they can leave cause you are and thats all that matters
2006-12-01 01:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mysolitude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should really think about what your doing. My little sister is a lesbian and I have set rules around my daughter for her and her girlfriend like no kissing and cuddling around my 5 year old. Why? NOT because I don't love, cherish, and respect my sister but because my daughter is 5 and asks too many questions as it is. I don't mind explaining to my daughter that Beth is gay but I don't want it rubbed in her face either. It's OK to tell her that she likes girls and that instead of having a boyfriend she has a girlfriend but it's another thing to let them neck on the couch in front of my daughter.
In your situation you need to remember that there is a time and place for showing you affection to your partner and that maybe the subway or a restaurant is not the best place for it. If I were shopping with my daughter and I saw you and your partner kissing i would give you a discusted look because
1. My daughter doesn't need to see that ( she's still young)
2. I don't want to see that ( it's not my style)
3. I'm not gay and don't openly kiss my partner in public( why should you)
4.If you were straight and puttting on a show I'd still give you a dirty look for the same reasons.
5. If you do this in an inappropriate place it feels to me like your saying ' I'm gay and I like it. Oh, you don't like it? OH well'
6. I respect people who respect me
7. I don't care if your gay I care if you keep your relationship where I keep mine.( at home and in the bedroom)
P.S. I really hope this enlightened and not offended you. It is a great topic.
2006-12-01 01:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by arl21amber 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Well act like any normal respectable heterosexual couple would. Hold hands, be affectionate but not overly. Dont grope all over each other and have a make out session. Its rude whatever our preference.More than likley it obvious you are homosexual and depending on where you live in the world, most people could care less what you do as long as you are not vulguar about it.Be your most affectionate in private.
2006-12-01 01:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer W 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are other gay people at the college. If you can find them and start a club that might help. Contact P-FLAG and see if they can help. The idea is not to be "in your face" with it, but to let straight people know you're all over the place and want to same things in life they do.
2006-12-01 01:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It may be hard if people are in your face about it but try and ignore them, they are small minded and prejudiced. If you and your partner are happy then you do belong- togather. After all dont we pair up with partners so we dont have to be alone, stick with it. Society is starting to come round but unfortunatly there will always be the judgemental. Good luck guys.
2006-12-01 01:08:28 · answer #11 · answered by missshortly 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋