Why is it difficult to re-establish trust when it has been abused?

Answer 1

It takes a lifetime to build trust, but just one minute to break it.

Answer 2

Trust is the major player in any friendship. If you can't trust somebody, there must be a reason for this. When somebody you trusted has abused your friendship it makes you not only re-evaluate who that person is, but what kind of person you are for letting them in in the first place.

Overcoming this is difficult and in many cases the relationship you had will never be the same. You wonder if there was something you did that caused the abuse of your trust and in the most part I would say that it generally wont be your fault. You just made a bad choice of friend. The best thing to do is to end the friendship if the abuse of your trust was particularly bad. You will always meet new people and make new friends. There will always be someone else and you have to look on the bright side (I know it can be difficult to do, and that it seems that a bright side doesn't exist) but at least you can apply what you've learnt to future relationships, spot the signs that the next person may take your friendship down the same route and cut it off before it happens.

No matter what, never be afraid to be ruthless with your friendships. With time, you'll know who you really can trust and that will lead to more substantial friendships and relationships and fewer abuses of your trust. Time and patience are key. And if the person who abused your trust is actually worth your time, they'll eventually realise how mush they've hurt you and try to make amends. If this is the case, it will take time, but there could be the basis for forming a friendship again. Ultimately, it's up to you.

Answer 3

Trust usually given unconditionally for some is broken totally the first time they find something a little different to what they are used (to) EXamine the word TRUST take just one letter away and its all decayed to something else (rust).
What ya make o dat ???
Hence the difficulty in re-establishing it once it is broke.!

Answer 4

DUHHHHHHHH Sorry, but I just had to say that.
This is rhetorical.

If you break the trust then you have none, if you have no trust it has to be re-established. If it has to be re-established someone has to extend trust and see if you are able to be responsible with it.
So to regain it means the person you broke trust with has to let you earn it back...

Hope this helps
:O)
Jerry

Answer 5

Hello,

Ans: Perhaps because trust is built up & developed within a relationship, and relationships usually follow some form of consistent pattern of behaviour i.e. honesty.

**If someone is betrayed, or lied to or the other person in the relationship has been found out & has behaved dishonestly. Its hard to believe the words & actions of the other person again.

**Think of it this way, trust is like having money in a bank account but in this case its a trust account. You have funds, then someone comes along who you know and they clean out your trust account. Your left with zero funds. You have to start all over again from fresh with that person, but are they going to clean your account out once again?? So there's the rubb!!!!!??? The person who behaved dishonestly in the past has to prove that they are trustworthy once again, they have to win back your belief in them. This is the nature of the relationship.

IR

Answer 6

Because most of animals (as human is) have a learned self-defense mechanism. It is likely to assume that the person who violated the thrust, will do it again and to assume he wont, will take tremendious positive actions from him to proove that he understands what he has violated about.

If you let some lie to you once, and just say; im mad, but dont do it again...this will be an indicator for him, that it`s merely ok.

if you pull out thrust for a while (preferably longer), he will learn, hopefully.

Answer 7

Trust is the biggest aspect of a relationship. It does come back but it depends what happened to break it. When you trust someone with your life and they betray it, doubts creep in later on.

Answer 8

You can do good things for someone 100 times,but as soon as you do one bad thing,all the good is null and void. Very hard to win back trust once it is broken.

Answer 9

Because when you really trust someone,it never occurs to you that they would break it,when they do,it's impossible to completely trust them again.There is always that nagging doubt.I would never trust anyone who let me down,& i'd make sure they knew too.

Answer 10

Because trust is something that is earned with time, you cant just get it in a day.