I am 24. I have one friend who only calls when he wants something from me and I am being ostracised from my family. I can't seem to meet any new friends or single women that are interested in a relationship and I feel old. Has the moment of failure already gone past or is there more to come?
2006-12-01 00:18:23 · 22 answers · asked by a1000_desert_roses_bloom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have failed in life when you stop trying to be better.
2006-12-01 00:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear you sound so down. At 24 years of age you still have much to do and nothing you have done so far makes your life a failure. Life is a circle we all go around. Fall in love, break up, think it's the end of the world, get over it, meet someone new, etc., etc. You sound as if you need to get out and join some clubs. The gym is a good place to start (you can work on your own but meet people that go there at the same time as you), you could do voluntary work (which will get you meeting people of all ages and get you out and about). You are focusing too much on the negative part of your life - how about all the good things huh? Get your act together and breathe new life into yourself.
2006-12-01 08:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Curious39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a loser too, but I don't worry about. Some people go to college and wake up and go to work everyday and they're OK with that. That was never good enough for me, I always wanted something more, I wanted to be rich or famous and do something that mattered. Then you get older and realize that there is nothing more, you are lucky just to find someone you might enjoy being with and no ones really guaranteed anything except death. I've never lost hope on having a good life though, I feel that somehow I can turn things around for the better. I just need to find the right path and pursue it. You do also.
2006-12-01 08:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not failing. If you are trying to help your friend or anyone else and you are successful in your attempts then you are not a failure.
Perhaps your family are acting this way towards you because of the actions of your friend, tell your friend you are willing to help him to a reasonable extent, explain to him that you need time with your family, so that you can try to ake up for lost time with them, and because you love them.
You can try to meet new friends and find a nice lady by joining a group of personal interest. I think the only reason you are feeling old is because you are preoccupied with so many things. You are worrying too much about thinking you have failed. Don't give up on yourself, when you give up that's when you truly fail in life.
Ask your friends and your family for help every now and again, everyone needs some help from time to time....no matter how strong we think we are. How about calling your friend up one day, tell him how you are feeling, he might be able to comfort you and give you some help with the problems you are having, friendship is supposed to be reciprocal after all it's not supposed to be about you being there for him all the time. You have to be there for each other.
Try to stay strong, stand up tall and and do everything with great confidence in order to achieve the things in life you deserve and desire.
Take care xx
2006-12-01 08:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by nicky_bronx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I went through a log period of not being able to speak to my family. I'm beginning to think it's a common occurance. Have you tried moving to a new area and starting over? Or at least cutting this so called friend out of your life? Find a different place to hang out. My daughter was going to the bars, but of course all she met were the drunks, because the others had a date. She started hanging out at the bookstores and met people in a writing club. She doesn't have a boyfriend yet, but she has people to hang out with every weekend. They go to ren fests, play paintball and go on hiking trails.
You haven't failed until you quit trying.
2006-12-01 08:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More failure will come until the RIGHT Princess comes your way.
Yes your 24, so what! You cant force love, you cant make Gods timing hurry. All you can do is search, pray and look for that one girl of your dreams.
Tell your friend to stop bugging you about his problems so much, and to start being a FRIEND! He probably looks up to you, so thats why he tells you about his problems, but you cant let his problems eat at your life .
2006-12-01 08:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one friend you have uses you -- you are being hated by your family -- you cannot find the right one for you.
It doesn't mean that you have failed in life. On the contrary, take these situations as challenges in your life. If a friend is using you, ditch him and find new friends in sociable places. (Mind you, I would rather be left without any friends than a friend who uses me).
If your family dislikes you, don't just stand there and do nothing. Find out why they do it. It could be your imagination, you might feel as though you're being left out from your family but have you ever considered in what mood your family finds you in whenever you're with them? Maybe you're feeling so low because of your friend and the absecence of a relationship that you're being either moody or depressed. Your family might think that they might be interfering if they talk to you about your life. So go ahead and give them reasons why you're being upset AND mention that you're feeling left out by them.
With regards to single women...don't give up just yet! You're only 24 and you have got your whole life ahead of you to be in a relationship. Go out more, friends or no friends, don't be intimidated by your own presence when going out. Most people go out alone and still enjoy life. So get out more, socialise more...or join a chatroom were you can chat to single women and arrange a date with them. It doesn't have to be a proper date...start by going out with a woman just for a friendly outing...who knows? You might end up either with the woman of your life or with the bestest of friends who doesn't use you!!
Sorry for the bible, but please do not give up in life. I had that phase and I have learnt that life is worth everything from good to bad.
2006-12-01 08:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Riana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 and no, we're not old. You're just depressed. You need to stop being friends with him and figure out why you family is treating you badly. Don't look for women. Love will come to you. Join the gym and start feeling better about yourself. Get some confidence.
2006-12-01 08:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What ,your 24,life for you, hasn't even started yet.
Hope this doesn't make u feel suicidal
How can you fail when you haven't tried to achieve anything,and so called failure is only really called experience.
2006-12-01 08:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to believe in yourself. You are a young person with lots to give to the right person, don't give up on yourself. I believe in you now, don't let anyone put you down or use you in any way. You don't say if you have job or not but i hope you do that's another way of making new friends and meeting new people.
I wish you God blessing upon your life.
2006-12-02 16:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is not about failing, it is about using every experience to your advantage and improving all the time. Think of life a a "W" your just at the bottom of your "W" right now and thigs will go up from here. You just have to ride the rough with the smooth. Good luck and i hope things start looking up for you xxx
2006-12-01 08:31:09 · answer #11 · answered by SARA H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋