This is so backwards, but she doesn't want anything too serious (or so she says, at least not yet) b/c she figures I am too good for her. Now I know what you all think, and I have thought the same thing, but I am now convinced she is the first persin to ever say that and mean it. I am as sure as I can be. So, any suggestions for getting her over this? It's ridiculous, really, but I want her to realize how much I want HER w/out overdoing it. How do I convince/help her let go of this BS idea she has?
2006-11-30 23:55:10 · 13 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you in love with her? It sounds like time and your continual acceptance and love are the only things that will help her realize what you what. When someone is that insecure, there really isn't much you can say to magically make her feel better.
2006-11-30 23:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight up, no BS...get her something that'll change the kind of thinking she has. Try to get her something that will have her feel that her self-esteem is at the same level as yours where both party's are happy -with- each other. Just go for broke and spend alot on her , saying that your "want"her, Show her,prove it and/OR even buy the gifts that will put a smile on herpretty face.
2006-12-01 08:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by featherdude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck to you. This is a tough one. It sounds like she is either mixed up or trying to let you off easy. you could simply back off and give her some time or Let her know how you feel and see if you can get a straight answer out of her. See why she thinks you are too good for her--she may have done something at some point in her life that makes her think she is not good enough. If so, let her know that the past is the past and you want to look forward to the future. Again GOOD LUCK and I hope this works out for you.
2006-12-01 08:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Terry K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has self-esteem issues from her past. Reinforce her self-esteem (not that you WANT her). Tell her how smart she is. Tell her why is a good leader among your peers. Tell her how great those new shoes look. Reinforce it over time, daily through affirmations. Don't overdo it. Continue to praise her (but not effusively).
2006-12-01 07:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Garrett H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously lacks self-esteem. The only thing that will help that is time, and letting her see how you feel. It sounds like she's been hurt before, and has a problem trusting. Be persistant, but not overbearing. She won't believe your words, but she will believe your actions. SHOW her.
2006-12-01 08:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so obvious from the onset that you are most definately NOT the person for her, if you are already sayng at the start of your relationship that her ideas and thoughts are BS.
2006-12-01 07:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did it ever cross ur mind maybe she is just having a good time........why do u think she needs help.......to let go of this BS idea....it looks to me as if u need help...and let her be or play by her rules if u really want her...........lol
2006-12-01 08:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by thatgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~She is probably afraid she'll get hurt, since she's so convinced you couldn't possibly care for her.
Keep reminding her and showing her that you mean what you say every day and eventually she'll believe you.
Good luck.~
2006-12-01 08:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First YOU have to get over it! YOU ARE CONVINCED NOW THAT YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HER????? Get real!
2006-12-01 07:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she has low self esteem..so she needs to love herself first before she can love you..age old, common kind of thing
2006-12-01 07:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋