I have been in this relationship for two years, I love her dearly, I am however not financialy prepared to take her as wife. I dont want someone else to take her away from me. Pls help me.
2006-11-30 23:42:46 · 14 answers · asked by Tesboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's great that you are finacially responsible, but to me, love reaches beyond the bounds of financial hardship! If she loves you as much as you love her, she'll want you "for richer or poorer!".
2006-11-30 23:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fear is of someone else 'taking her away', marriage is the last thing you should be thinking of...you should only get married if your self-esteem and relationship are so solid, nothing could be further from your mind! What you should be doing is concentrating on developing your career and letting the relationship develop naturally. She plays a part in this thing too, ya know. If you're worried about where her head is at, how can you be sure where your own is?
2006-12-01 08:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think after 2 years is sufficient time to propose. However, if you aren't financially ready I would talk to your partner and let them know your concerns. Before engagement there is a relatively inexpensive ring called a "promise ring", which promises your commitment to the relationship. However, according to wikipedia with the promise ring premarital sex is shunned(something I never knew).
2006-12-01 08:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always propose and leave the wedding til it's financially viable...
And if you are in love with each other, no-one can take anything away from you, unless it wants to be taken...
Don't propose til you're ready to commit either....good luck...
2006-12-01 07:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by holdengal81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her when she least expects it and in a place which is romantic . It is better to clear your feelings and let the other person know of your intentions then repent later, this delay in your acknowledging your love cannot be undone and only repentance remains.
clear your position truthfully and you will find a new comradeship in her
2006-12-01 07:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by Practical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You or both of you are ready for marriage when you or both of you are not afraid of anyone else taking each other away - when you are 100% confident of her love for you that she will not leave you for anything or anyone.
2006-12-01 07:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask for fear of losing her - ask when you're both committed. And, if you wait until you can afford it, you may never ask. Grow rich together - happiness is much more important than money!
2006-12-01 07:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by MHB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel it is right, maybe you should prepare yourself by getting money or a better job.
2006-12-01 07:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better if you will be financially stable before asking her. you need to because its for your future family. if she really loves you she can wait until everything is settled. there's nothing to be afraid of. its all up to you when to ask her.
2006-12-01 07:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by castroville 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~Seems it's never the right time to get married or have children. If you love her, ask her to MARRY you.~
2006-12-01 07:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋