i m in love with a guy .. .. and there is a kind of chemistry that i feel between us.. i think that he too same as me is attracted towards me.. the thing is that the guy is married he has a kid 12year old and a girl 4..!
now the twist... in the story..! i m 18
2006-11-30 23:38:15 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all makes sense to me!
My advice to you: before you step into
a grown-up situation (that even grown-
ups should avoid), you need to take time
with your life to learn from other people's
experiences rather than becoming a victim
of poor (yes, those you should avoid) choices.
To answer your question directly. You should
avoid this guy like the plague! Ask yourself...
- Why would I even fall for a guy that is married to someone else?
- Why would he risk losing his family to be with me?
- Why would someone of his age be interested in an 18-year-old in the first place?
And perhaps the no. 1 question to ask is...
- If he can cheat on his wife of two kids, is it probable that he will cheat on me?
Avoid almost certain heartache -cut off your
feelings from him or he WILL leave a scar on
you that will pose as a disadvantage for an
honest guy that will be interested in you one
day in the future. He will not leave his wife,
even though he may say he will, unless his
leaves him -regarless you don't want to be
in the middle of this no matter what happens.
Give yourself time to grow in wisdom and be
able think things through before you make a
life decision. It really is in your best interest.
E n j o y
L i f e
(by making smart decisions)
2006-12-01 08:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never ever get involved with a married man, let alone someone who is a father of 2. Pull the hand brake immediately before you get yourself too emotionally attached. Perhaps you can ask yourself if you are ready for such a relationship and whatever responsibilities that come with it (that is the kids etc) and put yourself in the shoes of the kids and wife, how will you feel if you were them , if your family breaks up? Lastly , what makes you so sure that he will definitely choose you over his family ? Whatever you do , make sure you protect yourself and don't get hurt or hurt any innocent ones. Good Luck , girl !
2006-12-01 00:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Choco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real twist is that his married why would you at 18 when you have a huge future ahead of get involved with a married man?? I find this all very frustrating! Sorry totally against dating anyone that's married and mate 18 yrs young!!! you have a whole world out there to explore!!!
2006-11-30 23:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by sicilyuk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey. You are putting yourself in a very precarious situation. Just because you have feelings for someone doesn't mean you should act on those feelings. You have to remember that jsut because you two are attracted to each other, it doesn't mean that it will last. This guy is married and has kids. You two may be looking for different things out of your relationship. You have to remember that. He may want a fling or something to break up his routine life. You, on the other hand, may be looking for something more. Hell, it might be reversed. Either way, it is a bad situation. Remember, you don't want to be "the other woman".
By the way, I am a married guy so I'm not talking out of my butt.
2006-11-30 23:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop this relationship. It will not take you anywhere but will hurt yourself in the end. You are only 18 and there is a bright future right in front of you, why must you jump into this kind of relationship and make your life so difficult. Find some other guy who is single and make a happy family of your own. That will be much easier. Think twice before you act.
2006-11-30 23:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Cutebunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young Lady; if you just want to be a sex toy then continue. If you want a life for yourself then find aguy that is not married. You have your whole life ahead of you. I know you are in Love and feel its right. Stop and put yourself in his wifes shoes and think how you would feel then. If he is willing to throw everything away for sex then down the road you will be pushed aside for someome younger with a pretty face and nice body. Think about it.
2006-11-30 23:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at this closely.First of all he is probably still in love with his wife and wants someone young to make him feel younger. If he has been married all those years and has kids do you really want to be the home breaker? I think you have your doubts and that is why you have asked this question. Go with your gut instincts. Find someone unattached.
2006-11-30 23:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with anyone but yourself! At 18 you don't know what love is! My God! To satisfy your cheap lust you are willing to destroy the lives of a 12 year old and a 4 year old?!?!?!?
This guy is out to tap a young teenager. Get with it girl!
2006-11-30 23:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What twist is that? He's married, and you are far too young to know what you want. I really don't think you want to be responsible for breaking a marriage up.
2006-11-30 23:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Pardonne Moi? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello!!!I've been answering same questions for 2 days,come on he's married yr not u can still have kids,he's married and has kids of his own,could u imagine life with him,always broke cause he left his wife and now has to pay child support.Anyway there's a whole world out there full of men u can do better than that,he's probably using u.don't settle for him,he's probably cheated on her before so watch out yr in sticky mud
2006-11-30 23:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by dezzza37 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋