I have been friends with a girl my whole life, our families are close too, the problem is i'm getting married next year and she has presumed she is going to bridesmaid, I wasnt even planning on inviting her because she is rather huge and has ginger hair, its not going to look good on my photos is it? Do you think i could tell her she can come but has to keep out of the photos?
2006-11-30 23:24:13 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just bury that sovereign ring in her forehead Biatch, that should get the message across. It might be worth getting a ring with FFO KCUF written on it too.
2006-11-30 23:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Grinner5000 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps she has been a friend to you you're whole life, but it is quite obvious you are not a friend to her, because if you the fact that she isn't a size 4 and her hair isn't what you consider an "acceptablle" color would not matter. It's sad, she has wasted all those years being friendly to such a two-faced stuck up b***h, when she deserves a true friend. And I'm willing to bet that whenever you needed something (like to borrow money) her physical appearance didn't matter then. You really need to stop for a minute and think about how you would feel if you were in her place, although I know you won't. I can only hope that someday someone takes the knife that you so callously put into her back and stabs it into yours and that there would be no one willing to lend you a shoulder to cry on. You're lucky that a person's outer appearance is not a reflection of who they are on the inside, because if it was, you would definantly be one of the ugliest people in the world.
2006-12-01 01:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very very inconsiderate of your friend! and I might add selfish! Life is full of things you may not like but I can assure you that not inviting your friend will cause alot of problems in your future. People are people no matter what. Looks are only skin deep and a little fat on someone else isn't going to hurt you one bit as a matter of fact you just might be the reason she will take a little more pride in herself because YOU CARED enough about her to have her in your wedding party. Some people cannot help their looks and some have weight problems gee almost half of all Americans have weight problems..I am not chastising you just giving you some food for thouhgt..remember you reap what you so and I am sure if the shoe was on the other foot you would be very hurt, saddened and depressed if it happened to you..You never know when your entertaining and angel so be mighty careful of what you dish out. the feet you step on..on the way up just might be the foot that kicks you in the rear on the way down..Pride goeth before a fall. So I caution you to be a little more understanding and sympathetic to your friends. You will be far richer for it and will reap the rewards of life because of it.. and also remember when you look at those wedding pictures and your firend is missing it wiil always be a rather unpleasant memory..it's a no win for you if you don't invite her..Good Luck in your decision and have a happy marriage..
2006-11-30 23:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by flashrtp 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell her that your afraid that she can't be a bridesmaid because you only have budgeted for 3 or 4and due to this she will be unable to be one. But you would still like her to help you with the wedding arrangements and then maybe you could give her a task to do that will keep her activite and busy when the photo's are being taken. However it would be mean not to have her in at least one of the photos and then when you receive it you can make sure that she gets it
2006-12-01 01:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okie, bridezilla, either your firnds with her or you're not. the way you talk about her, i take it you don't like her all that much. if not, be honest that you don't plan on amking her a bridesmaid. then, you wouldn't have to worry about your photos. plus, maybe she'll realise just how bad of a friend you are that you talk meanly about her behind her back. if however you do really like her, ask her to be a bridesmaid. after the bridezilla phase is gone, you're not going to be thinking OMG, she ruin my photos, but how lucky you are that your friends and family made your wedding a wonderful experience. and being superficial just because someone isn't skinny or has red hair is rahter rude.
2006-12-01 04:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you purposely keep your wedding party small, this can work. Be sure to tell her in advance so she doesn't expect it. Maybe just invite her to the wedding as a guest. One of my girlfriends had me as her maid of honor 6 years ago when she got married - and assumed I would choose her to be mine when I got married a year ago - except I didn't. I explained it to her - she wasn't happy but she got over it and came to the wedding as a guest. The hard part was that she lives out of state and I know what I went through to make it to her wedding - and didn't want to do the same thing to her.
2006-12-01 01:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a woman who was on the show bridezillas. she made everyone get their hair dyed to her specification. she made them attend fitness classes. the funny thing was none of the girls had an ounce of fat on them. the bride was the one with a little extra on her.
don't be shallow. i think your friend would be really hurt if you didn't invite her. tell her you can only have 3 bridesmaids and your family insists you have 3 family members as bridesmaids.
wow i hope you're kidding? then again with everything going on in our society it doesn't surprise me...
2006-12-01 01:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty selfish of you, you should just tell her someone else is the bridesmaid but if she is your true friend you should want her in the photos.. The photos are for you not for everyone else there.
2006-11-30 23:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a joke, right? Please, someone, tell me this is a joke because this might be one of the most shallow, horrible things I've ever read. If you're not joking, there are some things that really should just be kept to yourself. I hope none of your photos come out, whether your "friend" is in them or not. Shame on you.
2006-12-01 03:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't presume to be your bridesmaid, but she should still still be invited. It may be your wedding but surely you can be less of a self-centered b**ch in regards to your friend!
May you look in the mirror and it breaks....then may your friend laugh at your bad luck and steal your man!
2006-12-01 03:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BRIDEZILLA! You shouldn't invite her, that way it will put a damper on your friendship, and her feelings would be hurt. Then you would probably lose her friendship. But you would be doing HER a favor. She deserves better than this and she deserves a better friend than you. You are incredibly shallow, and if she dumps you as a "freind", you will have gotten what you deserved. Only a completely arrogant evil person would even consider what you have asked.
2006-11-30 23:40:04 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋