I met this German girl at college in june'06. I fell in love at 1st sight. she only had 1month left in the UK and when i spoke to her it turned out that she wanted to spend all this time with me. She gradually grew feelings 4 me-I had never been so happy in all my life!She was so kind, beautiful, smart, funny, same interests.
We sadly had to let eachother go when this month was over but she promised to return to me for 2weeks in october. we kept i touch thru msn all summer & really missed eachother.
The day finally arrived 4 her stay. she had changed =(
she would no longer look me in the eye, there was no affection. NOTHING! I had done nothing wrong(only treat her as well as i possibly could!)I was treated really badly in return. She broke my heart,destroyed my confidence and didnt care. I still love her. I dont want 2 let her go!I will never find anyone as good as her.we both knew I hav a heart made of glass so why? she doesnt even contact me anymore.what should I do? im lost.
2006-11-30 22:58:12 · 11 answers · asked by L666 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all for your advice and kind words. I KNOW she is a good person deep down... we had such a beautiful relationship! I love her.. and she loved me. one detail I should add... I think there still may be hope because she is moving here to live in june. I just dont understand how she could treat me so badly when she knows how much I care. I would do anything for her. my heart belongs to her... she knows that
2006-11-30 23:36:38 · update #1
You need to try and move on. Believe me, you will eventually find someone a lot better.
Unfortunately, what you are experiencing is an important lesson in growing up. Its not un common. But believe me, time is a great healer. What she has done to you has obviously hurt you, but there are other females out there.
Good luck, I am sure you will be fine.
2006-11-30 23:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why she changed, but she has changed her view of the relationship.
The good news is that that part of your soul that can get really happy about love has been woken up in you. That will come in handy in the future. When and if you meet Ms. Right, you will feel that same feeling times ten and you will remember the old feeling you had for this girl in the past. You will realize that it is much better with Ms. Right than it even was with this girl.
You will probably go through some emotional roller coasters for a while over this. When you are calmed down and ready, ask God to bring you Your One Perfect Mate--let Him pick the girl next time. It'll be WAY BETTER if you do.
2006-12-01 07:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by MandaPanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deary me we are a love sick puppy aren't we. there there....
OK feeling like a sappy, girly, woos yet? Well you should be as thats what you sound like.
1. This woosyness is not attractive to women, they hate it and those that don't aren't good for you anyway. You wanna be a "yes man"?
2. Long distance relationships never work. Trust me I've tried on many occassions.
The reality is she's probably gone home and met someone else, an ex or woken up to the fact that its not going to work long distance and is sad that it has to be like this.
What you should do in this case is romantacise the affiar. Remember the good bits but be cool as things just had to move on. Don't worry about it - if you're young and such a romantic you can bet there's a lot more of this to come!
Thats life! Enjoy
2006-12-01 07:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she knows there is no hope between you's two. It'll never ever work, she lives so far away, not a different town, but country. Maybe she has found someone else, but felt obligated to see you again. Don't let it ruin your confidence, It's a bit sad you waited for her so long, you know there is little hope of a solid relationship. But she is disappointed with that fact, so she wants to act like a ***** so you move on, other wise you are clinging to false hope buddy, move on, lets me and you go on the pull together, show the world that women are a dime a dozen.
2006-12-01 07:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your first real love you Will always remember your feels for her but the pain will gradually ease Be grateful for the times you had. She knows it will not last that is why she is acting the way she is.
If you love something let it go if it is meant to be she will return
2006-12-01 07:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our hearts are so fragile. Try not to let someone treat you badly.
Just keep thinking she is a dumkoff for letting you go.
2006-12-01 07:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find someone better and more beautiful...its a rule...I've proven it to myself... Things happen for a reason in life... Always for the better...
Move on... Start dating other girls and you will soon forget the heartache and forget her...
There are millions of girls out there...each one more beautiful than the previous...
Good luck!!! And hang it there...it does get better...
2006-12-01 07:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Move on sounds to me that she only needed you to probally marry her make her a citizen and then let you go but she knows you have genuine fealings for her and she has a heart and does not want to hurt you that way.
2006-12-01 07:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you love someone, just love! never put the condition that you will get same love in return. That's the mantra. Blame yourself if you expect that she will love you equally.
2006-12-01 07:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Infinite 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on dude. if she doesn't have any feeling then let it be. if you keep thinking about her, you'll be sad. Take care
2006-12-01 07:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋