My inlaws are very interfering in our lives. I have been married for 1.5 years & till date facing problems with my in-laws. My Father in law is very interfering whether it be our personal finances, me n my husband going out together, what to buy and what now to!! They interfere in every little thing. He also keeps on taunting me for some reason/other. Tries that me n my husband don’t spend much time together, when at home or out. Keeps interfering or asks to sit with him n talk. My ma inlaw keeps back biting abt me wt my fthr in law. She also keeps corrupting my husband’s mind. My husband is nice but very scared of his father. Though he supports me & knows his father’s attitude but cannot take a stand at times. I understand his position but im fed up. It gets very stressful staying at home after I come back from work. We r planning on having kids. ive tried talking to in laws politely but they r the same after a few dys. pls advise on how can i convince my husband to stay separately.
2006-11-30 22:34:10 · 8 answers · asked by sparkle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your husband doesn't stand up and forcefully put them in their rightful place, your relationship will suffer for many, many years. He must put you first and make it clear to the whole world that is how it is. There are many divorces due to partners not protecting each other from these types of things.
2006-11-30 22:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very honest with them and face up to them. If they keep this up it will get worse- i've been in a very similr situation. The best thing is to be very honest with both your husband and inlaws. But also think about yourself. If your husband isn't going to face this problem then can you handle it for the rest of your life? As for having children this could make the situation worse. You need tobe sure of how you feel before you decide on children. I know how this situation feels so feel free to message me. It's so frustrating and sensitive it's hard to know what to say.
i wish you LOTS of luck with this minefield.
2006-11-30 22:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Christian S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that the 2 of you need a life on your own in your own place. Marriage is hard enough without so many outside interferences. I think your in laws probably don't mean to be so prying, it's just their way of communicating and wanting everything to be just right in your lives. You guys need a place to call your own ...even a little tiny apartment. If you're going to start a family, you definitely need to be on your own first. Best of Luck to you both.
2006-12-01 01:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He hasn't grown up yet and is a mama's boy. That's a sad reality. So you better wait to have kids! That would bring havoc and hell in on you and your children! No child deserves to go through that. They will be even more involved in your lives than before! (take my word for it - speaking from experience here).
I suggest that the two of you move far away from them. Tell your husband exactly how you feel. Tell him why it's wrong. Try to explain to him to see it from your side, as if the table was turned, so to speak.
Good luck with it all!!
2006-11-30 22:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband must accept that YOU are his family now. Be wary of driving a wedge between them and forcing him to choose. Communication is your best option. Tell him quietly but firmly that you resent his interfering family and will not put up with it. You are his partner and require that his family respect you and stop backstabbing you.
Good Luck xxB
2006-11-30 22:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them a letter and post it to them and stay away with your husband the weekend you do this and tell them everything you've said on here and get your husband a back bone no one should talk to his wife like they talk to you.If you live with them move out ,Try standing up to them , can't you go and get family mediation and then find out why they are like this.
2006-11-30 23:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to quit being a wimp and grow up to be a man. He should be the one to put a stop to his parents involvement in your marriage. If he is in line to get a large inheritance from them, then you may want to let what they say or do just fly by you. If he isnt in line for an inheritance, then its up to him to put a stop to it. They will get over it.
2006-11-30 22:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by ob10830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't have kids with this guy. He shouldn't even have gotten married if he's going to let his parents run both of your lives.
2006-12-01 00:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋