me and my bf are both 17 but 18 soon and sex for me feels not so good.i tryed to get him todo more fole play.also we dont get much privacy cause my parents hardly go out and my brother to so we never get my house to myself.hes coming round my house tommow and i know sex will be bad again for me.my bf also doesnt like usic been played cause he wonts to hear when someone comes up the stairs so we can stop and not get cought,this is annoying for both and we dont have anoth money to go to a hotel and none of ourr friends have a free house.i need idears on how i can make it better
2006-11-30 22:11:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Have sex with someone else. Then use these new techniques with your bf.
2006-11-30 22:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
First off you should consider whether you should be having sex at your age. If you're not comfortable with yourself and your place in the world how would you expect to be comfortable with him.
It sounds like you both need to grow up and that'll improve the physical act of love. There's obviously a communication issue with your boyfriend and you if you're on here seeking how to improve your sex life and you're not discussing it with him.
And yes consider getting yourself through school, make some real money, rent/buy a place where you can have the proper privacy to feel comfortable in and that'll help ease some tensions..but mostly enjoying sex or not enjoying has to do with what and how you communicate with the partner...not some secret technique that'll work on everyone and anyone.
2006-12-01 06:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by smurf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear - it can be frustrating but at least you have a sex life at 17. I for one didn't.
Your problem is basically one of privacy so unless you earn money for a hotel or have sex in a car you're going to have to come up with ideas for getting your family out of the house. Days out and stuff like that.
2006-12-01 06:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh the parents house hey, I remember the days of sneaking girls in and climbing down drain pipes to escape angry fathers at girls places. Fun times.
However I think you need to hint what you like to him, if need be pretend to read a 'for girls' page out loud from a magazine, but script it yourself. i.e scientists say the average women needs between 45-60 mins of foreplay and the best way to get women aroused is to . . . . .(you fill in what turns you on) you with me.
Also introduce sex toys and mutual masterbation into your sex life (me and my girlfriend love this) and please for god sake
GET A XMAS JOB AND BOOK A B&b hOTEL ETC. CAMPING IF WARMER.
Good luck and have fun (oh for him-it's all about deep throating(not enough women do this but play around with the end too much-no good))
2006-12-01 06:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by bearerofknowledge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) book a hotel room
2) buy a copy of the Kama Sutra
3) insist on foreplay, jsut deny your bf sex if he doesn't want to go there. Make sure foreplay is fun for him too, so talk to him a bit, moan, let him know what you like and if he does it, let him know he does it right.
4) still does'n't want to do it? Dump him and find a more mature man.
2006-12-01 06:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lie on your back, with your boyfriend on the left of you.
Get him to lie on his side, facing you.
Lift your left leg.
Get him to bring his left leg, over your right leg which is laying flat.
Rest your left leg on top of his leg which is over you.
I call it the 'silent position' lol
Helped us many-a-time xD
If sex is too noisy, go to a pharmacy shop like Boots and buy some Tingle Lube. It's fun, + you both enjoy it.
2006-12-01 06:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by J2809 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be positive about these difficulties , change settings , positions .
Consider that teenagers' limitless sex energy is around once in life...
Generally be on top of things in life , do not play victim .
See your life as a " movie " & be the director of it :-)
2006-12-01 06:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Marxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of pathetic.
Get a job, you'll be able to afford a motel, or even *gasp* your own appartment.
You do realize, they can probably hear you anyways, and just pretend they don't because they're very uncomfortable.
Get a darn lock on your door at least.
2006-12-01 06:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In order to enjoy sex you have to love yourself and your body first. First discover what it is you like and don't like by masturbating and touching yourself. Read the Khama Sutra as well. Get comfortable with yourself and then you can enjoy sex. Are you sure you're ready for sex?
2006-12-01 06:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by wkatsande 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just wait tell you can afford a place of your own and the fooling around and the anticipation of waiting could make it all that much better????
2006-12-01 06:23:39 · answer #10 · answered by whatsup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex gets better with age and experience. Be patient .
2006-12-01 06:22:55 · answer #11 · answered by Yeti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋