I am in love with a 21 year old bum.And I am 2 months pregant.He can't keep a job, has a child by another woman who is evil and he is on probation and hasn't paid child support in 7 or8 months so he's going to jail for a while.He even still lives with his horrible mother.What should I do?Should I stay with him or should I leave him??I would do anything for him.We have been together for 1 year and nothing has changed like he promised.
2006-11-30 22:04:41 · 17 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is there something mentally wrong with you? Under the new patriot act someone like this constitutes a terrorist. And your supporting terrorism. Yes I would leave him have a nice day :)
2006-11-30 22:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Somewhere over the rainbow Way up high There's a land that I heard of Once in a lullaby Somewhere over the rainbow Skies are blue And the dreams that you dare to dream Really do come true Some day I'll wish upon a star And wake up where the clouds are far behind me Where troubles melt like lemondrops Away above the chimney tops That's where you'll find me Somewhere over the rainbow Bluebirds fly Birds fly over the rainbow Why then, oh why can't I? Some day I'll wish upon a star And wake up where the clouds are far behind me Where troubles melt like lemondrops Away above the chimney tops That's where you'll find me Somewhere over the rainbow Bluebirds fly Birds fly over the rainbow Why then, oh why can't I? If happy little bluebirds fly Beyond the rainbow Why, oh why can't I? i sing this to my self quiet enough so that only i can hear whenever i am sad or miss somone (especially my puppy)
2016-05-23 07:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girl friend just got out of a 7 year relatioonship just like this one, but she wasn't pregnant. You guy ins't named Tony is he?? Anyway, she was a professional person and he was a con artist. He never held a job longer than 3 months. He was always in and out of jail for not paying his probation or getting caught with drugs or something. We calculated how much money she had forked out over the seven years and it was around 20,000.00 for his mistakes. If you do plan on staying with this looser, Do not pay anything for him! Do not give him money! Do not add him to your credit cards and or bank accounts. THis is how she got into BIG trouble. He ended up living with her free or rent for 7 years before she got smart. It was great for him as she paid his child support to his ex-girlfriend, paid his food and lodging, bought him a "work van" , paid for his gas and everything for 7 years. If you are a strong female you don't need a freeloading man, baby or not. You can handle it! Good luck.
2006-11-30 22:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by mrsgapeach71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out as soon as possible you need a man for you baby not another child if you keep him plan to be the care giver and except that you have to do it all, make the money support him and your child and do you really want this kind of life for your kids? I don't think you do. I wish you good luck
2006-11-30 22:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice. You have chosen to love him. You can unchoose that.
He is not The One. Unhook from this loser ASAP. When God is your Matchmaker, the guy has a job and a future because God is a good Matchmaker. Jesus came that we might have abundant life. This loser is giving you NON-abundant life. The devil came to steal, kill and destroy (US), this loser is a tool of the devil in your life right now. You have Free Will--make the right choice.
Let God be your Matchmaker next time. God will not hook you up with a loser. In fact, God had your proper Mate picked out for you before you were born. Some people never hook up with their God-intended Mate because they never stop being their OWN matchmaker...
Until you turn this area of your life over to God, God says, "Talk to the hand and you're on your own."
KEEP THE BABY! God can still take care of your love life, but you must stop doing things your way---NOW!!!
2006-11-30 22:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by MandaPanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you sure that ''you'' want to keep the baby?.. Are you aware of your life will change complately..It is hard for most people even to keep a simple job at 21 years old. It is a period when you understand what you can do and want do for the rest of your life. Is your relationship and pregnancy yours?
2006-11-30 22:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by zep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and forget about him. He should be responsible enough to take care of the children he helped to make. Leave him you and your child deserve better than that, make sure he doesn't get away without paying support for his child he helped make.
2006-11-30 22:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain.this is a tough one .1)u take up his slack & don't get mad at him or resent him(very tough 2 do!) 2)-u make him accept his responsibilities & do what's right(if he loves u he'll do it-but good chances he will leave.i went through the same thing w/ my ex wife.i tried to carry the load(& did 4 7 yrs.) it caught up w/ me .i asked her to step up & se divorced me & moved back in w/ her parents & left me in a financal mess.good luck!
2006-11-30 22:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by joeybogoatis69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the same kind of relationship before and it never works and after two marriage's i finally found some one that works hard and treats my two kids like their his i suggest you get out while you can
2006-11-30 22:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by sharon_fontenot@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the ultimatum. Tell him you're going to leave if he doesn't shape up. If he loves you, he'll do it just for you. If he doesn't, don't waste your time. (sometimes you just need tough love.)
2006-11-30 22:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋