Advice needed .... met his guy last night and ......?

Question

met this guy at a party last night, one thing led to another and we ended up spending most of the evening together. We then went bar hoping and clubbing till the early hours and he invited me back to his for more drinking. We ended up sitting on his sofa chatting and holding hands till 5am and then he asked me to stay over promising to be a total gentleman. He was, we went straight to sleep I woke up with him holding me and he kissed me for the first time in the morning. He is off on holiday for 3/4 weeks today, but asked for my number when I left and said he would call me when he got back.

1) Is the fact he was a gentleman indicative of him liking me or not being interested
2) Is it likely he just asked for my number to be polite
3) Is the fact he said he was going to phone on his return good indication he is thinking of pursuing this or the polite brush off
4) If he was really interested would he not call or text from holiday.


Any other comments?

also..... i am not sure i showed i was interested enough reasons

1) i did not ask for his number
2) did not mention meeting up again in an attempt not to be clingy
3) did not make any moves just responded to his

he also mentioned he realised i normally dated men that were better (cleverer, richer etc..
) than him - not necessarily true his perception) that evenig and I am worried he may not pursue me because of this but he did ask for my number and say he was going to call the morning after

but...

I did stay the night
kiss him back when he made his moves
stay up talking till early hours of the morning

is this enough for him to know i like him

Answer 1

Ok from a guys point of view

1) Could be a lot of reasons for this and I would put him not being interested as the least likely.

Making the move can be quite scary for us blokes as we have to risk rejection and don't want to scare the woman off.

2) If he asked for your number he probably wants to see you again although don't be suprised if he doesn't call cos a lot of guys find calling women very scary

3) Hard to say, how did it feel to you

4) Probably not he has only just met you and does not want to appear desperate.

My advice: next time why not make sure you get his number as well, that way you can take a more proactive roll rather than being passive and letting him take all the risks.

Good luck and I hope he calls

Answer 2

A little needy are we? :-) I'd say it's WAY too early to be over analyzing this as much as you have. It could explain why you are alone now. It hasn't been 24 hours and you have already run this into the ground.

I'd say wait and I think YOU should make the move when he comes back. Why? Because instead of being real and true to yourself you tried to be cool and after reading this I'd almost feel insulted.

"he also mentioned he realised i normally dated men that were better (cleverer, richer etc.. "

if you did nothing to suggest the contrary or at least let him know you think he's in the same league or better, then by process of natural selection your contribution to the gene pool will CEASE TO EXIST!! unless you have more socially adept sisters and brothers.

On that doo-doo move alone you need to make up for such a blunder. You may not have said it but trust me that kind of stuff manifests in your body language. somehow you probably did transmit that message. And if you are lucky enough hear from him during the vacation I'd make a concerted effort to let him know you like him and stop playing coy if I were you.

Perhaps he was being a gentleman. Or just read the 3 huge blunders you made as you not being interested.

Whatever the reason you need to atone because of your snobby attitude.

If you don't ask for a number, didn't mention meeting again and only react instead of intiate that could translate into you being read as an uninterested, or an ice-maiden that shags like a cold fish.

I suggest you work on your charm and turn it on HIGH if you get a second chance.

Answer 3

An identical thing happended to a friend of a friend, and I am sorry to say that he did not call when he returned from his holiday...The same questions were going around her head too...However, everyone is different. How would you prefer to think about it? You have a choice here - either you feel anxious and worry continuously about how he really feels about you or you put it to one side, get on as you would had you not met him, think happy thoughts about the fabulous evening you had and then see what happens in 4 weeks time. You can't change the facts - he is going on holiday - all you are in control of is your own reactions and feelings - so stop trying to second guess his motives and actions and enjoy what happened, and make sure that you are the sort of person that he wants to see again! (i.e. great company, happy within herself etc etc).

Answer 4

I think u should just let things run their course. Stop speculating; if anything will come of it, it will. The most important thing is to remain cool and mature. Live your life as usual, that way you won't be diappointed if nothing comes of it; and if things come along nicely... all well and good. There still are gentlemen in the world u know. Then again, he may just be gay. Live one day at a time.

Answer 5

you are worrying way too much, just relax give the guy your number and tell him you would love him to call you, then see what happens you will have to wait and see but if he does like you he will ring and the fact that he was a gentleman is really rare these days he could be shy, i would hold on to him he sounds lovely, good luck i hope he rings just relax and wait

Answer 6

"Slow down, you're moving too fast"

You've only just met and hee seems genuine enough. Only time will tell but he sounds like he's into you.........maybe he'll text you from holiday but if he doesn't and only makes contact when he returns, remember, he has been on holiday!!

Try not to analyse things too far or expect too much. It's still very early to have high expectations but it sound sto me like you've got something going between you.

Answer 7

~I also think you're making too much of the situation. I think he was a gentlemen and interested in you to sit up all night talking to you. You'll find out when he gets back.~

Answer 8

well i would wait and see although i wouldn't sit in moping over him just yet .he might text from holiday or he might not it sounds as though he does like you and he might want to take thing slowly and get to know you a bit better before he takes things further just go with the flow and enjoy yourself until he comes back

Answer 9

Yes he likes you, no maybe he wants to call you. I think he wants to pursue this. I don't know about the last question.

Answer 10

on holiday wake up he's banging all round cos u didnt put out last night it was the brush off love