I am dating this wonderful guy who cares & treats me very nice,handsome,successfull & mature for 3 months now.We r quite happy with each other & looking towards a bright future together...My mother met him 2, I told her that i am very happy with this man & that am considering this case 2 b a serious relationship. But, even though she liked him 2 & she wouldn't mind if i ever got married with him...she insists that i should better look at other guys as well & don't miss any oportunities...She claims that there might be someone better for me out there! She and a friend of hers are trying to set me up a date with this guy they think that suits me a lot! I asked her to stop doing this... and let me decide what I want to do.She backed off but...now,after the argument we had ystrdy, i am thinking to meet this guy they want to set me up with & just 2 c if he's my type out of pure curiosity, without thinking of getting involved with him.Hever,i smhow feel guilty twrds my bf which i love lots.
2006-11-30 21:24:18 · 14 answers · asked by Soulla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Am 24 and my Bf is 32.
I saw the other guy once at a party (bout 2 weeks ago) but we didn't speak at all.He seemed quite interesting but i wasn't drawn towards him at all. It's after i had this argument with my mom that i considered to meet him.
By the way, No am not planning to discuss this with my bf. Usually we talk about this things, no problem but i can't mention this case...Am scared.
2006-11-30 21:45:54 · update #1
Let me get this straight. You "love" your boyfriend but you are going to go out with this other guy out of sheer curiousity? Someone should hit you with a brick!
How old are you? If you found out your boyfriend decided to go out with another girl how would you feel?
It's clear you don't love him because if you did you'd have told your mother you aren't interested and you wouldn't BE interested. Even out of sheer curiousity. The fact that you are curious speaks VOLUMES.
And the whole thing with you mother hooking you up are you in an interracial relationship? I find it odd people are trying to hook you up when you already have boyfriend who's supposed to be wonderful.
To answer your question I don't know what's wrong with you... aside from the fact you just may be stupid.
If the positions were reversed how would you feel?
2006-12-01 00:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you thinking??? If you really love your bf you wouldn't think twice about meeting other guys! It doesn't matter if you "only want to talk," your intentions are wrong! You want to see if he is good for you? What if he is? Are you going to leave your bf who you love so much? No? Well, if you aren't then what's the point of meeting him?
It would be different if it was some guy you randomly met and struck up a conversation with, but this one was supposed to be a set up and he would meet you knowing it's a set up! That's wrong.
Are you starved for attention? Is it some kind of game for your ego? Is it worth losing your wonderful man over? This is how cheating begins...
2006-11-30 21:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by Caramella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend, as you say you do, and he seems pretty perfect, then you shouldn't go meet this other guy, theres just no need.
On the other hand, if you really are curious and genuinely thinking about meeting someone else, then maybe you don't love this guy that sincerly. Perhaps you could go on this date, meet as friends, and thats all - then you have a back up plan if things don't work out with the guy you with - and technically it wouldn't be cheating coz you haven't made contact with this person physically, you have just met up & had coffee.
2006-11-30 21:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tamara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think your boyfrien is the one then don't do anything to ruin that.
You said you are very happy with him.
If this guy really makes you happy then forget about you mother and her friends. Stick with your instinct
However you did say that this guy makes you "quiet happy".
Is this happy enough or do you honestly think it could be better?
Doy ou love him?
If he isn't the one then you will find out soon enough. Then you can look around but until you find out if he is the one I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt.
Curiosity killed the cat and it could also kill the happiness you have.
Think carefully about this.
2006-11-30 21:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by specs appeal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~You should have added your age. Maybe your mom thinks you're too young to have a serious relationship. On the other hand, it's hard to find true love, and it's only true love if he feels the same.
You're curious about going out with a different man, so I don't think you're ready for a serious relationship.~
2006-11-30 21:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to search deep down inside and find out in your heart. Listen to it. I agree with the one above, how old are you?? But you also have to think, is he the one for you? Is he the one that completes you? You have only been dating him 3 months, I would see what its like for a few more months, and if you don't think he is the one go see what else is out there. I hope you find what you are looking for! Good Luck.
2006-11-30 21:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jen~I love my soldier~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been seeing a guy for 3 months and are ready to marry him? If your happy with him and think he's wonderful, why do you want to go out with someone else?
2006-11-30 21:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
has your mother , in the past, over other things, always or often been critical of the choices you have made,, or thoughts you have had? if so,, i wouldnt listen to her,
as to feeling quilty,,, what discussions have you and your boyfriend had? are you suppose to be a couple? exclusively dating each other? if not, then your free to do as you wish, if so, and you know he thinks you are a couple, then its cheating,
also keep in mind, its not your mother or her friend, that will end up living with, sleeping with,, etc, the man you choose
2006-11-30 21:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you are considering other guys then you apparently are not completely into your guy. If you loved him then you wouldn't see anyone else as a possibility. If this is the case then cut him loose before you hurt him and yourself.
2006-11-30 21:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by ashleighshea1982 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It doesn't sound like you're totally ready to settle down in your mind. Why don't you experience a few more men, like your mother suggests. You have plenty of time to get married!
2006-11-30 21:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋