What was it like?
How did it work out for you?
Would you advise it?
2006-11-30 21:22:51 · 15 answers · asked by jessica a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I have but with a twist it was with another women who was married and I enjoyed it very much we still see each other from time to time but her husband who I know was and is a control freak and didn't give her the time that she needed everything was on his schedule and he never made time for her wants and needs xoxo
2006-11-30 23:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I have been the "other woman". It was stressful because I knew that I was wrong to do it. It ended up working for me because he picked me in the end but that doesn't make it any more right. No, I wouldn't advise it unless you know that he will DEFINITELY be with you alone in the end. If that is the case then I would ask him to do so. If he chooses her over you then I would drop him like he's hot. You don't need that and there are planty of men out there that would be happy with you alone.
2006-11-30 21:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by ashleighshea1982 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a woman but I have a friend who went this route.
It was the most fun she ever had, it tanked horribly and ended in tragedy. She did it because she said it felt exciting. He was an older man who was cultured, taught her things and knew how to do things in bed she never dreamed of. She really raved about that. It was a rush and a learning experience for her. She felt powerful being able to pull this married man from his wife.
In the end she felt guilty because this man who had kids fell in love with her, so he decided to do the right thing tell his wife and divorce for her. Now the rush was gone and guilt set in. She told me if he left his wife he might leave me (this is despite the fact I pointed out she pursed him and he actually defied the numbers and DID leave his wife) then she said she didn't want to maybe have to be the part-time mommy to someone else's kids. So, she left him after he sacrificed everything to be with her.
Later I found out the guy committed suicide. So basically she ruined a marriage for fun. I'll never forget how she was so non-chalant about it. Like she had nothing to do with it. After that I never spoke with her again.
On another note, I also had a friend who slept with this married guy who chased her relentlessly. She finally caved in as he also had access to resources that would boost her career. What happened is they got busted and he was the husband of a family member ( a cousin or something) and he said SHE pursued him. (not that it matters to me but she comes from a family from INDIA)
So now the two families are in some kind of feud, she got blamed for it and the guy who was really the culprit smoothed things over with his wife.
So though I'm not a chick I listen to some of the foolishness you want to try in the name of making guys play toys (*shudder*) or entertaining yourselves and think you have a lot of nerve dumping on guys!
Would I advise it? Only if you are willing to live with the inevitable fact that at some point you will ruin lives.
2006-11-30 22:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~Yes, I am ashamed to say that I was in the past. I was always missing him. It never works out with married men. I would not advise it, and not just for emotional reasons.. it is just wrong.~
2006-11-30 21:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are involved with a married guy..you should know that he doesn't love you.Even if he claims so,he doesn't mean it.He has his woman,whom he has chosen to be the woman of his life and he loves and cherishes her and only her.She is the crown on his head. You?You are nothing for him...you are just his toy,someone who is having fun with when he gets bored.If he buys you gifts and offers you money or anything...don't take it as love...he is just "paying" you for the services you are giving to him...Eventually, he will go back to his wife.That's his base! When you are "the other woman" you feel used and hurt!I do not recommend it!
2006-11-30 21:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Soulla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing to really "brag" about , but it was cool with me i mean i wasn't the one married...
I had a good time we spent lots of time together and we had lots of quality time.
I was alright with me, but i did get attached to him "knowing it couldn't b a permanent thing :-(
Advise it?? well it depends on ur maturity i mean u know it won't pan out but its fun while it lasts.
I would say to each his/her own i mean they are the cheating person and they have their reasons...
Ur just fulfilling something they don't get at home:-)
2006-11-30 23:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and I regret it.
Take the high road and be better than, well, me.
I did it once, and still I'm ashamed.
Be a real woman, have honor. Don't settle for being a mistress.
It's a pathetic move, really.
2006-11-30 21:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by kimmunism 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and I'll never do it again. It was a summer fling and he ended up going back to his wife, but then had the nerve to call me a week later asking if I would take him back
2006-11-30 21:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by jrsygrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She will always be #1, and you won't get your needs met. You will always be frustrated, wondering, and you will waste away precious months of your life while he puts you on hold. If that sounds like all you think you're good enough for....then go for it.
2006-11-30 21:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i was but its not good to be the other woman,cause everytime u need him he cant come to u.and everytime u depend on him and his free time.to be honest i didnt like that and our relation didnt work out.i think u have to find some one whos single
2006-11-30 21:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋