I am consdering having sex soon and I want a little bit of advice.. bleeding, pain, pleasure, how to make it more enjoyable, how to turn him on, and anything and everything!
Thanks - answers will be much appreciated
2006-11-30 21:17:51 · 24 answers · asked by Genna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im in a relationship and he's 100% understanding and we are both ready to have sex.. we've been together for 1 1/2 years and I wana go into this having a bit of knowledge. I've heard good stories and bad but I am ready and I know it and I want it to be a memorable time that is GOOD. That is why im asking
2006-11-30 21:24:48 · update #1
When I lost my virginity, it hurt like H E L L! All I could do is pray to God that he'd finish soon and vow that I'd never do that again LOL. He didn't purposely hurt me or anything... but jeez was it painful! The second time was much, much better. If the guy really cares about you, he will do everything in his power to make you feel amazing (foreplay, oral sex, soft touching, lots of kissing, etc.) to warm you up so that when "it" happens, your body will be more ready & accepting. Also, PLEASE make it a requirement that he wears a condom. He should not object to this... if he does, then don't give him the precious gift of your virginity. He should be more than willing to protect both of you from pregnancy and disease... if he doesn't want to use one, run away from him FAST!!!! You can get pregnant or get an STD even if it is your first time! If he doesn't really care about you, he'll just make out w/ you for a bit, hop on, hump away, and get off when it's over. Pay particular attention to how he treats you during the "act". Depending on your age, you may or may not be emotionally ready to handle the kind of transition your life heads into once you begin having sex. Take the time to really think about this... if I had it to do all over again, I would've saved it for my hubby... but sometimes life just doesn't work out that way :)
I bled/spotted for a whole day afterward. It sucked big time, b/c I was sore in places that I never imagined could be sore lol. But, like I said... the second time was better, and since then... sex has become GREAT!!!!
Good luck... and please be safe!
2006-11-30 21:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you want to have sex to turn him on. You should think long and hard before you have sex. Many people wish they had not had sex before they did. Besides the chance of getting pregnant, there is the chance of getting one of the many STD's out there, even if you take precautions. You have to know in your heart that he is the one you want to be with. Don't do it because your libido is telling you, or because the guy is pressuring you to. Once you have sex, you cannot take it back. It can be the most beautiful thing in the world, but please make sure it is Truly the right time and the right person. It isn't always the way you pictured it either.
2006-12-01 05:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a boyfriend?
If you are ready, you should talk it over with him. Think about it carefully. I wish I had thought about it more before I did it for the first time because now I regret it.
Most girls bleed the first time, but not everyone does. Everyone is different. I don't want to scare you or alarm you, but you probably won't enjoy it the first couple of times. You will have to get used to it, girls are different from guys, and take time to enjoy sex.
I don't know what else to tell you but good luck!
2006-12-01 05:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by sweet*peach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont have sex because you feel pressured to or because you dont want to be a virgin anymore. If you are ready and have somebody who you like and is willing to go through it all with you, then everything will happen as it should. As far as pain/bleeding I do not know as I am male. Just dont get your expectations too high because most people first time is more awkward than it is pleasurable.
2006-12-01 05:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by yo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This has nothing to do with this question, but a question that you answered on wether rock or hip hop is better.
Rap sucks. I'm sorry I just flip out whenever someone says its better than rock because they're so wrong.
Listen to some REAL music:
Primus
Rage Against the Machine(Rock/Rap)
NOFX
Dead Kennedys
Pearl Jam
Nirvana
Bad Religion
Listening to these bands will result in you being slightly more awesome. Thank you
And good luck getting laid too.
2006-12-03 22:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! Hi, why do you want to lose your virgin??? Well, are you sure if he is the right guy??
Well, i could not give any advice cuase i m a virgin too. sorry!
Um, i dont know how old are you but if you are in High school, then dont do it. You would regret that cuase a few kids got pregrant in my class and it sucks cuase you are not ready at this age. (if you are high school) i know htere are plenty of girls did that even at middle skool, but i m sure they regret that. I had heard lots of things about that.
But this is your decision, and i cant tell you to do or not to do. If you think it worths, then do it.
Anyway, have a nice day! God bless you.
2006-12-01 05:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by victoria_the_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is to wait. It's over in 10 minutes, and your virginity is gone. Then you hurt for 3 days and the guy leaves you after he's gotten it, because your relationship has went to far. Not going too far is was keeps it interesting and keeps you interested in eachother. After you do it, he might stay with you 2 more months, but things will fade and you will break up. Then he moves to the next girl, you move to the next guy and the cycle continues. By staying a virgin you keep things interesting, and you still have your dignity.
2006-12-01 05:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Gary S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't bleed a lot or hurt a lot. Don't worry about it being enjoyable, the only thing you need to have is confidence and everything can be good. Don't be scared to ask for what you want.
2006-12-01 05:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you , and WHY do you want too have sex for , do you wareally want too or is your partner saying have sex or i will leave you (BS) sex isn't all that , don't get me wrong i love having sex but it will happen when you really want it too! If your BF is wanting you to have sex just to have sex don't he'll leave you 5 minites after he cums and leave you thinking dam that was crap . sex is about 2 people not just 1 you should be telling him how to make you feel good, if you do try it make sure he wears a rubber ok
2006-12-01 05:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by diablo0470 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 1st was way too painful, I had to ask him to stop. I bled for a few hours. There is no pleasure until you know how to pleasure yourself (if you know what I mean). My sister didn't have 'real' pleasure until she was almost 30. Luckily, I taught myself at a young age, so it didn't take me too long (I'm 25 now). If I could do it all again, I'd wait until I knew exactly what to do to have pleasure
2006-12-01 05:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by laylamarie2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋