Hi I have been in a relationship for at least 10 1/2 to 11 years and we seem to be content 98 percent of the time. In the past I have cought him posting his pics of his private places on picture rating sites n he seems to think that there shouldnt be anything wrong with it. I believe this has been going on for most of the years we have been together because of little things i have found in the past and now that I actually had enough proof he was posting these pics I confrounted him with it and He had told me that he was dont with posting pics on the web. I believe this will be the 3rd time and I am so inlove with him but think that this is something that we 2 as a couple should share together and not for him to show it off to god and everyone in the world.
Is it stupid for me to stay here and be unhappy and put up with it or should I smarten up and realize that he is never going to stop as he enjoys it too much or I guess just tell him that this is not what I want out of a relations)
2006-11-30 21:13:11 · 8 answers · asked by justsearching4u2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
~It is wrong in my opinion. Is he cheating on you sexually? You need to ask yourself if you love him more than you hate what he is doing.~
2006-11-30 21:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would have gave our relationship a 98 1/2 except for a few days out of each month lol, just kidding. The last time we discussed this I said I would not do this again unless you came to me and said you wouldnt mind posting together with no face shots and we would both have access to the site ,passwords and all nothing hidden. When i did post pics b4 the pics i posted were nude shots waist down never any face shots, the whole screenname and user info was all fake as to not be recognized or located, in no way was this ever an attempt to be un faithfull, for me it was just a cheap thrill "nice to get comments about your privates anounomously" i think the reason their might be suspicion i am doing this again is i recentlly bought 2 digital cameras 1 for each of our 2 kids i guess i can no longer buy a video recording device without any suspicion.But i can assure you I am not and will not post any more pics without your permission! To me a site like "lost cherry" where you post full pics and get comments and have your real identity posted so you can get rated is more like a dating site with a higher potential for cheating,then the site i have posted at before I know i have never went out with someone in the past just by seeing a picture of their privates. So give it a rest I am not posting. After 10 1/2 years i would think I would have gained a little more trust in the value of my words, PS, I love you!
2006-12-02 19:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by noneedtosearch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very proud of his "parts" and wants to share them with everyone. Thing is, he isn't in a relationship with everyone, he's with YOU so no, you aren't stupid for feeling that way.
It looks like you both have different boundaries in the relationship, maybe you need to make some with him. I'd think after over 10 yrs he would know what you want and vice versa though. Perhaps something more is going on? Is it possible that he wants to be single again? You might have to consider the possibility.
The best way to predict the future is by looking at the past. Chances are he is not going to stop it unless you somehow get through to him and he cares enough to change.
How would he feel if you put your parts online? Have you asked him that one? If he gets all huffy about it then something's definitely wrong cuz why would it be right for him but not for you? If he thinks it would be ok for you to put your parts online then he just doesn't think it's a big deal really, it's just what he likes.
2006-12-01 05:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may like photgraphy i have a friend from my old work that snaps pictures where ever he goes then puts them on a picture site for people to see . that may not have a chance to travel or ever see these places and people comment on how nice the pics are. and how he has taken them. Its like a hobby. I wouldn't get upset for him doing this. This is something that makes him happy he's expressing how he feels in teh pics he's taking or what they mean when he's photgraphing them.
There are bigger problems in life to worry about . I would let him continue doing that if he enjoys it. As long as he's not sending nude pics of you out in cyber space. there just regular pictures of things.
2006-12-01 06:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't stupid and you are in the right. He should stop doing it for you, although he said he's finished doing it now. He or you should remove his pictures from the Internet rating sites and leave it at that. I would hate for my fiance to show any of her private parts to anyone.
2006-12-01 05:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why it bothers you that he is posting his private parts.. to get rated... he is not cheating on you, i guess it just wouldn't bother me.... He loves you and you love him, and all things are pretty much great with the relationship, be happy...
good luck
2006-12-01 05:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by next.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea sounds wrong to me !!
2006-12-01 05:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change other people. Accept him as he is or move on.
2006-12-01 05:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by jesuspimper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋