does / should age difference matter? im in my late 30's and i lust over a girl of 18yrs? i dont know if i should persue it, because she's so young compared to me? is this ok or wrong?
2006-11-30 21:05:38 · 30 answers · asked by meandthee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hiya,
I'm 23 and I'm getting married din April 07 to my dream man who is 43 which is 20 year differents. But I do love him and b4 we made a decision to marry we have asked our families what they think about us being 2gether and if they think its a good idea. I know that Stephen been worried a bit cos I am much younger then him but we love eachother and we are willing to work throught anythign. I dont think anythign is wrong with it.
Good Lucy!
2006-11-30 21:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you just interested in sleeping with her, or would you like some sort of relationship with her, or is it a combination of both?
On paper, there is an obvious age difference but everyone is different and deal with things in different ways. You encounter mature 18 year olds much in the same way you come across immature 39 year olds.
If it is just sex, I think you need to be careful as if she hasn't had much experience, and isn't mature enough, it could certainly end badly.
However, if you are thinking about having something beyond just a physical relationship, I really think its not a case of the age difference rather than where you are both in your lives, and how mature you both are. She may be young in comparison to you in age, but is she a old enough to deal with any sort of relationship with someone who is older than her? I mean in terms of life experiences, career etc. And you also have to consider if you were to get together, it is inevitable with that age gap you will face negativity from people... is that something you are prepared to face. I really think its something else you will have to consider as it can put a strain on any relationship.
Anyway, I hope this helps. Good luck whatever you decide x
2006-11-30 21:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by hell_ova_arse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may not be interested back, you need to be prepared for this, or she may be interested for the wrong reasons.
However there was a age gap of 15 years between my parents, i believe my mother was 20 and my dad 35 at the time, and they were very much in love and married, so perhaps it could be the right thing for you.
You need to think carefully, does this girl feel the same? Is she worth putting yourself out for? Do you lust after her for the right reasons ?
2006-11-30 21:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tamara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is immaterial and as she's 18 there is nothing wrong with it. 12 years is nothing. I met the most amazing guy 6 months ago and he's the best thing to ever happen to me. He is 44 and I am 21. It doesn't bother us. You may get the odd funny look when you're out but it's only jealousy. Go for it!!
2006-11-30 23:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Little One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 19, not much difference but he was 15 when i met him and i was already in matric, and we are still together,it's been 4 years now and all the problems are just getting started. So there is an advantage and a disadvantage. Good luck to what Eva you decide.
2006-11-30 21:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by petersencandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So there is a 20 year age difference. If you are single go for it.. I am not going to tell you it will work but who knows it might. I was with a man for 10 years who was 30 years older than me.
2006-11-30 21:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by traceylill 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You haven't said if this girl likes you or not. If so, then yeah, what you got to lose? If she doesn't know and you go chasing her, then she might be as closed minded as some of the people on Y!A and think you are "sick".
There is an age gap of 12 years between me and my fella, we have been together for 7 years - no problems!
Think it depends on the people involved, good luck!
2006-11-30 21:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. if u say tht u lust after this 18yr old girl tht chances are u might not really like her..u just find her attractive..but anyhow, ur in ur 30's..it shudnt be hard getting a girl ur age or at least older than 18..
2006-11-30 21:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 22 and my partner is 38 and are relationship is better than ever we have been together some time and have 2 children together i have always said age is nothing but a number and whats ment to be will be. so go for it there is only one way to find out if it will work
2006-12-02 07:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by ag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your over 18 its your choice... if she likes you and you like her and you are both of "LEAGL AGE" (18 is in New Zealand) then sure go for it. Have fun!
Age is only a number.. its how you act at that age that matters. If she's mature then yeh go for it I say.
Atleast give it a go and if it doesnt work out then dont!
hope that helps
2006-11-30 21:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by Genna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋