He just turned one and he is healthy, and we show him tons of love. It seems he is spoiled though, he crys non stop sometimes. Do you think we should just let him cry, or pick him up everytime, because it seems he wants to be held. What ways should we break him of this habbit.
2006-11-30 20:47:48 · 10 answers · asked by nystateofmind8989 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
some babies do want/need to be held more then others,,, you say he cries non stop sometimes, do you mean like every couple of months or so he goes threw this? if so, many babies will be more needy, do more crying, as they enter a new phase,,,, their brain connections are developing, and they will go threw a few days of this sort of thing, you will usually notice them doing something new, developed a new skill, right after a particularly irritable time.
i personally with my daugh picked her up,,,, crying in and of itself, isnt something wrong,,, do make sure and discipline him as he grows, meaning if he is not listening, doing things he shouldnt, sit him down for a time-out, this works even on little ones around a year and a half, just set a timer for two minutes etc, loving and even spoiling a child, doesnt make them act out,,, as long as you control them with the discipline
2006-11-30 20:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably needs to be held MORE, not less. I know it seems counterintuitive, but the best way to get a child to cry less is to hold him when he cries. Now I'm not saying to give into all his cries- if he cries to have a cookie or a sharp knife or something, but meet his desires for attention. A one-year-old does not have another way of communicating needs other than crying. Don't worry about spoiling him with attention. Kids do not get spoiled with attention- they get spoiled with material things. You might want to teach him sign language- that cuts down on toddler crying a lot because it gives him another way to communicate. Even so, though, at one crying is still his main way of communicating discomfort or unhappiness. Listen to his cries and pick him up and he will start to cry less in time.
2006-12-01 08:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,some kids are needy.If you pick him up every time he wants he acknowledges this and will constantly do it.If he is hurt that is different.Babies know how to get attention,and to much holding they will always expect it,you will get no peace to yourself.Let him throw his little fit now and then and don't cave in to his crying constantly.Take it from a father of 4,he is progressing into terrible twos you don't want him hanging on you .You have a life also!
2006-12-01 05:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by one10soldier 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your child has it in his head that when he cries he'll get what he wants, which is not a good thing...due to the fact that he'll grow up thinking if he don't get his way, there'll be consequences to pay...i know that it's hard to hear your child crying like this, but you're the one who has to pay for it by giving in to his "wants" and not "needs"...next time he throws one of his "fits", get a couple of his favorite toys and place them with him, but don't give in..you have to let him know who's in charge here. yea, he's young still, but these are the stages when everything really soaks into their brain, when they're learning at a vast speed. start to hum or sing, or talk to him while he's crying, and making silly faces, without having to pick him up..what he's used to is being held, just like you said :)......or, maybe since you said that he has these fits once in a while, could it possibly be that he may be colic? or even constipated.....try talking to his pediatrician to get to the bottom of it...but it is good to hold your child every now and then to show him that you're there, but you won't spoil him..hold him at the times when he's not crying, to show him that you're approving of his good behavior........hugs
2006-12-01 05:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by dre o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a one year old daughter too who when she wants something will cry till she gets it.
trust me you need to make sure its coz of that thought before you try to break the cycle.
its good to indulge your kid but make sure you teach them that you are the parents and not them. this means even with your child don't always spoil them. instead teach them No is No and rewards for something good.
my daughter now doesn't cry for everything. she is a good child and i am sure anyone can do that..
2006-12-01 04:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by anii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teething?
2006-12-01 06:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by alcollar329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he has a food allergy sometimes they can make kids really cranky. pick him up they are only kids once
2006-12-01 04:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by lilme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should learn more about the baby sign language so that you can understand more about him.
2006-12-01 04:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
find out the cause ..if there isn't any then juz disipline him
2006-12-01 05:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Wxzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
paddle his bottom
2006-12-01 04:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋