Do you think this would be considered as adultry?

Question

You have a steady boyfriend / girlfriend and you both are having sex. Even though you two aren't married, would you consider that adultry? Many people only think about adultry as cheating while in a marriage. Well...

I DO THINK IT IS ADULTRY IF YOU'RE MARRIED OR NOT! It doesn't matter if you're married or not according to the Bible and my own personal opinion. Even looking at someone lustfully is a adulterer. You're not even suppose to remarry someone who has been divorced because that's also adultry! The Bible is very strict!

I personally don't understand why people who are dating or in a serious relationship feel like they need to have sex. Just because you're dating someone, doesn't mean you have to have sex like most people look for in society. My views on society is that society is messed up!

All this porn stuff makes me sick! It's so gross. The women who feed men's minds are only in it for attention or money!

I personally believe condoms shouldn't be given out because to me, condoms are looked at by mainly young people as their gateway to have sex. It sorta influences them...They think they'll be ok when suddenly, something wrong happens and finds out they're pregnant. OH NO! How shocking? Sex was created A MAN AND A WOMAN who respect each other and to have children. I don't understand why people are shocked when they find out they're pregnant. That's the way a baby happens folks! If you can't face the responsibility , don't spread your legs. Also too, if you can't face the responsibility that you'll be judged by God, don't spread your legs!

It literally makes me ill how children of today ages of 13, 14, and 16 are embarrassed to be virgins!!! HOW SICK IS THAT???? WAKE UP WORLD???? Lets teach them proper morals and teach men to respect women around the world!!!

Everyone justifies the Bible to make things right. Well, the Bible says what is sin and not sin. What is so hard about that?

READ THE BIBLE FOLKS! IF YOU TRY TO BASH ME, THAT MEANS SATAN HAS YOU! HE WANTS YOU TO BELIEVE EVERYTHING IS OK IN SOCIETY! IF YOU READ THE BIBLE AND FIND GOD, YOU"LL UNDERSTAND. GOD WILL JUDGE YOU IN THE END.....

ALL I CAN DO IS PRAY FOR THIS WORLD OF ADULTERERS AND PERVERSE PEOPLE....

FORNICATION IS STILL SIN IN THE BIBLE AND IT SAYS THAT IS IS A FORM OF ADULTRY AND PEOPLE SHOULD BE PUT TO DEATH...

Answer 1

Who cares what you think and take the bible out of your ****.

Answer 2

You say a LOT but ask only one question so I will answer it. If a couple is supposed to be committed and are engaged in sexual relations with each other, each believing the other is monogamous, then they are both cheating. Is it adultry. Adultry is what they would be doing IF they were married. It is not defined as such outside marriage but it is still morally corrupt as trust is broken in the most decieptful and personal way possible.

As for your other comments. Clearly society is valuing morality and pacivity less daily. Violence and graphic sexuality is everywhere including daytime tv. When asking where we are going, just go to discount clothing stores and see the sexually charged provocative nature of preteen and tween clothing.

You have good reason for your discomfort. Porn makes several billion every year. However, without customers it would not and the bulk of its business market is based in the US and Western Europe.

You need to know too that men control the porn industry and your words border on blaming the women. I don't know where you got the idea that 'women feed men's minds" That is like saying the rape victim caused the man to rape her and it just isn't so. It is also like saying men cannot control themselves and clearly they can because though they think about sex several times a day they are not having sex several times a day. At least most of them are not.

The men and the women involved in porn have different values than you and the great thing about porn is, you can turn it off or even better, never turn it on. I would tend to agree with you though that sex is necessary for a relationship to be serious. I am 51 years of age and dating again and I don't engage in it though many men I meet seem to think it is status quo. Rather I remind them that my self respect is far more important to me than their opinion of me.

You are on the right track but you need to check your facts. I think in time you will make peace with the Bible, sex and dating. We all do.

Answer 3

The Bible is nothing more then a novel,
that was written in a time that is no longer relevant today.

Many of the laws about adultery were written so that men would not feud over woman and disrupt a peace full society.

However the bible can teach good moral lessons.It's when people take these stories literally problems arise. You can either read revaluations for the 30th time waiting for the drums to sound in the sky or you can join the rest of us in the 21st century.

Answer 4

Grow up you puerile cretin. Marriage is a man-made institution!!

If you are going purely by the Bible then you'd also have to concede that menstrauting women are to be shunned as they are seen to be unclean! You can't have your cake and eat it.

Of course society has examples of reckless behaviour, the very nature of man illustrates a tendency to go off the rails occasionally and without the happy balance of so-called "good Vs evil" not only would the world be a boring place but highly underdeveloped!

You do what works for you and let others do what works for them. Let God judge them, you have no right to interfere or cast aspersions whatsoever. As the Bible clearly states "Let him who is without sin cast the first stone". I very much doubt that you are a pure as the driven snow.......if you choose to live by the sword, you should be prepared to die by it too!

If you don't want to have pre-marital sex..........don't!
If you don't like watching porn, it's simple.........don't!

But first and foremost, stop judging people by the choices they make.........it's infantile and narrow minded!

Answer 5

~First of all, you're asking a question which I will now answer. No, I don't think it's adultry to have sex with someone if you or your partner are NOT married.
You sound very angry and judgmental, talking about women keeping their legs closed and pushing your beliefs on the people trying to answer your question.
If I wanted to be preached to, I would go to church.~

IT ALSO SAYS IN THE BIBLE JUDGE NOT AND YOU SHALL NOT BE JUDGED. DO YOU THINK YOU'RE JUDGING?

Answer 6

Wow, you sure have a lot of conviction for the bible. We're all different and our perception of cheating and pornography.

I think if you are serious about being with anyone exclusively and have sex or any physical sexual contact with someone else you are physically cheating...if you are lusting for another while being exclusive it's cheating of the heart. If you are just sleeping with anyone, you need help. I consider myself to be a little old fashioned in the way that if your heart belongs to someone, it just does and that's it and don't waste something as intimate as sex on a casual encounter.

As for premarital sex, in my younger years I did it and found that you could think you knew someone very well and find out some major things about them once you have had sex with them. I dated very sweet and loving men who ended up being very aggressive with sex and asking for things I would never think of doing. Thing is, you never know your partner until you have consummated and still after that things can be introduced that aren't exactly what you would like to do (I would hate to marry someone and find that out later). Currently I have a son and parents are a little more lenient on their sons having premarital sex than their daughters but even if I had a daughter (which I plan to)...I wouldn't want her to marry without having sex. Of course I would prefer she was over 18 but I don't agree with saving yourself for a couple of reasons...one of course what I explained prior and two, we are human and if we only have sex with one person in our lifetime we tend to wonder what it would be like with someone else since it's never the same. It's best to be cautious with your heart (not just give it to anyone) and conscious of our health (having safe sex).

I am not a big fan of porn because it is exploitation of the people who have resorted to it for money or emotional fulfillment and it takes away from what sex it really about...the connection of two people who love each other and possibly creating a life.

I am simple but still open minded. If you aren't, you aren't and whatever works for you is your thing. Don't expect others to conform to what you believe, we all have the ability to make decisions and that is what makes us unique. A perfect world would be nice but it's just not possible...and if what the bible says is true, you will have your perfect afterlife. Just be you and don't concern yourself with everyone else...we all will pay for our actions in this life or we won't and it's really not important to be concerned about right now. Just live by your beliefs and be a little open to listening to others without closing yourself off to the world as it is. Take care.

Answer 7

I agree on most of what you say- except for remarriage- when a spouse has commited adultery you can remarry or when an unbeliever leaves- and sex premarriage is fornication- and sin- and so it lust- this world has lost much and many have lost the compass-so sad- and tragic- much prayer and repentance is needed- take care-D

Answer 8

Everyone has their own beliefs, and I think you are right to say that youngsters nowadays are too promiscuous, which is a bad trend. However, it boils down to the upbringing & the education and many other factors, which no one can fully control..

Just stay on yr own beliefs ,OK?

Answer 9

OK honey.

You really need to look up these words before you ask questions. Adultery is when a married person has an affair.
FORNICATION is when two people have sex.


a‧dul‧ter‧y  [uh-duhl-tuh-ree] –noun, plural -ter‧ies.
voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.

for‧ni‧ca‧tion [fawr-ni-key-shuhn] –noun
1.voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons or two persons not married to each other.


Two single people who are dating and having sex are NOT commiting adultery. They are fornicating.

Answer 10

sure. my boyfriend and i, are addicted to each other. we r so into one another . we don't have to have sex, it is just the way our bodies react when we start to interact, it's natural. we are old enough meaning nature , just takes it's coarse but we know it's definitely wrong. the force of attraction is too strong. we are hoping to at lest marry, to gain the mercy of God.

Answer 11

Birth control is a good thing, sounds like you need some anger management classes!