Hey, body language? I'm sure that, just like me, you've read a hundred books and articles that say things like:
"If she tilts her head to one side and strokes her
neck, that's a sign of interest..."
"If she licks her lips in a longing fashion, that
means she's interested in you..."
"If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact,
and touches you often, then she likes you..."
DUH!
I remember when I first read all this stuff.
I thought to myself "Wow, cool! I must have
been missing these hints because I didn't know to
look for them. Now I'll know when a woman is
interested in me..."
Well, there was ONE SMALL problem...
The problem is that women display these MAJOR
INTEREST signals in about 1 of 100 interactions
with men...
And there was one BIG problem...
That problem was that none of the damn books I
read said a single thing about how to MAKE women
give you these signals.
In other words, what I realized is that average
guys like me who don't get "approached" by women
need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more
importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in
women so they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST
PLACE.
So let me share with you some ideas on how to
MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you... and then
I'll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell
if a woman is interested.
And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different
than the ones you read in your flirting books.
OK, so you're out at a bar with a few friends,
and it's time to meet some interesting women.
You look around, and none of the hot young
babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to
one side, looking you in the eye, and licking
their lips... so you decide to DO SOMETHING.
What do most guys do in this situation?
Either:
1) Nothing, because they're scared, or...
2) Something typical, like ask a girl to dance, or
if he can buy her a drink.
If you're guilty of doing these, raise your
hand.
Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself
silly. Not too hard. But silly.
If you put 100 guys in a bar with one beautiful
woman sitting alone, and you say to all 100 of the
guys, "Hey guys, which one of you can walk over to
that woman and do something to make that woman
feel a SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?"... I'd say that
if you're LUCKY, one of them will claim that he
can do it.
In other words, for most guys, the idea of
walking up to a girl they don't know and doing
something that will TRIGGER an attraction is
completely outside of their universe.
This is one of the reasons why guys do things
like asking girls to dance, buying them drinks,
etc.
Now, something you must understand when it
comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women don't
feel ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.
ATTRACTION isn't a CHOICE.
It isn't logical (at least, on the surface).
But once you start to "get it", everything
changes. Your entire perspective changes once you
"get it", and your results change instantly as
well.
So here's something for you to try:
MESS WITH WOMEN.
That's right "mess with" them.
Tease.
Bust on.
Be difficult.
Why?
Because it INSTANTLY communicates that:
1) You could care less what she thinks of you.
2) You're a fun person.
3) You're unpredictable.
4) You're a bit of a "wild card"
5) You GET IT.
Now, you might be shaking your head right now
and saying "That doesn't make any sense. Why would
a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with her
instead of being nice?".
That's a good question.
But for now, take the hand that you slapped
yourself with earlier, and slap yourself again.
Good.
I want you to STOP following your "be nice and
kiss ***" instincts when you first meet a woman,
and instead practice MESSING WITH HER.
Make fun of something.
Go to hand her something, then pull it away at
the last second.
Shake your head in despair and tell her that
she's screwing up her chances with you.
Say something Cocky & Funny, then turn around
and walk away before she can respond to your face.
Can ya feel me, dog?
Now the good stuff...
HOW TO TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED
Well, this is what you were looking for, so
here it is...
I'm going to give you a stupid-proof formula
for knowing whether or not a woman is interested
in you.
Here it is:
1) You engage her.
2) She engages you back.
Yes, that's it. Please stop the applause long
enough that I can finish. You can clap later.
I know that this sounds a little "Duh-ish", but
stay with me here.
If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess
asks me how many are in my party, and I answer
with, "Well, there are three of us. I guess there
will be FOUR if YOU join us..." and she laughs at
my joke, then IT'S ON!
If I'm standing at the bar, and the woman next
to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say, "Hey,
watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at
least a foot of room..." in a serious tone of
voice... and she starts playing along by smiling
and moving away from me then back again playfully,
then IT'S ON!
If I'm talking to a woman that I met at the
magazine rack, and I ask her, "What's with that
huge purse of yours? You got a dog in there or
something?" and she starts laughing and making
excuses, then IT'S ON!
In a nutshell, what I'm trying to say is:
1) Stop looking around for signals from women that
they're "interested" in you.
2) Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman
is interested in you.
3) Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and
watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then
assume that IT'S ON!
As long as you use how she's responding to what
YOU do as your gauge, then you'll have a MUCH
easier time spotting the "she wants me" clues...
...Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.
2006-11-30 20:28:13
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