I just don't understand myself. I am in Love i know i am!!! I have been with this guy for 6 years on and off. When we are together after awhile I kind of lose interest in him, so he leaves once he leaves I am a total wreck without him, and I know I love him, so why do I only want him when I can't have him?
2006-11-30 19:21:52 · 19 answers · asked by RachelSusan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The truth , and I not trying to be little you belittle you, is that you are very immature and insecure. It is not uncommon for youngsters and others to want what they can't have . Then once you get what you want the game shortly there after is over and you are back at sq.one...The best thing for you right now might be to date around and try a varieties of guys and relationships..Either way after gaining experience with dating you will learn much that will help with these type of situations..........It's all good.
2006-11-30 19:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been in the same situation before. Its the old theory of "The grass is always greener on the other side". Step outside your relationship and look back in. No one is 100% anyway and some love too much and become jealous and smothering. If you love each other, have a break and set yourselves free, if after 1 - 3 months you can't be without each other. Then it was meant to be.
Hope this helps
2006-12-01 03:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by oooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't love the actual relationship aspect, as in the daily rituals of being with someone....it sounds like you love the excitement of "getting back together" and the drama of missing him when he's gone.
Besides all of that, there is a lot of wisdom in the idea that people don't know what they've got, until it's gone.
2006-12-01 03:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by d h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is human nature, we all want the things we can't have yet when it's right in front of us it's not as appealing. You need to find a way to make the times you are with him more exciting to a point where the love you say you have for him is as intense as the times you're not...
2006-12-01 03:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by darkness_returns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Correct yourself before time defeats you". You are in love with him. You take him for granted so you loose interest. The most important thing is not that you love someone but someone loves you and this guy loves you cause he keeps coming back to you. Don't let him go, he may not come back sometime!
2006-12-01 03:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Infinite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a matter of being lonely. I do that with my bf a lot, and I notice he'll do that with me too. I think it's normal. People tend to want what they can't have. If you know you love him, then reassure yourself of that whenever your with him. Remind yourself of how you feel without him, and I'm sure you'll be able to love him when he's still there.
2006-12-01 03:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by huntingforeggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love for him has become an obssession, and you don't wanna see him with anyone else because you've developed a selfish kind of love and this is no longer healthy decause you'll only end up hurting yourself, and love shouldn't cause anyone pain. just let him go, it may seem like you'll never find love again, but you will
2006-12-01 03:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by the S'bu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as sad as it is Rachel you need to come to reality and just admit that the answer to your question can only mean one thing you are a bbbbitch or sluttttttttttt i leave the choice to you or maybe you are scared of a serious commitment which means you only get to sleep with one guy.. damn i am good at giving advice doctor Phil who
2006-12-01 03:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest getting into counseling to figure this one out. I think the underlying issues go a lot deeper than what can be answered in this forum. If you don't get it figured out, you'll sabotage every worthwhile relationship you have.
2006-12-01 03:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people tend to want what they can't have. that is why kids do things they are told not to do... we do exaclty as we shouldn't. if you love him be with him. you can't be bored with someone you "love" find a way to make things fun for the both of you. you might want to make your decision soon though cause he won't wait around forever! sooner or later he will get bored of being tossed around too!
2006-12-01 03:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by chantal h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋