Help! I think I am obsessed with a stripper!! Or just infatuated.?

Question

I know it may be weird, but I actually really like this girl.

After having a horrible day, I went to this stripclub nearby. I saw this girl, calls herself Princess. She stood out from all the other strippers, because she just didnt look like a stripper. Gorgeous without much make up and perfcet body. She didn't belong in a place like this.

Anyway, I got several lapdances with her, but we were kinda just talking and joking around most of the time. I left, but she stayed in my head all day the next day. A few days later I came to see her again. Again, several lapdances, but we were just quiet this time. She just sat on top of me with her arms around me.
Next day she was ringing in my head all day, so I went back. She seemed overly happy to see me. On the first lapdance, she kissed me. Then we just kept kissing way past the time limit.

I spent about $400 dollars those three nights, no sexual favors. I feel like I was just buying her time there. Im obsessed, or lost.

Its not like I cant find a girl to pay attention to me. I just got out of a 2 year relationsip, and before that a 4 year relationsip.

What really bugs me is that first she kissed me, and second, after our time was up she just kinda cuddled with me for like almost half an hour, and was like falling asleep or something.

And she talks to me about all her goals in life and how this club is just a stepping stone. Either Im obsessed, or the humanitarian in me wants to save her.

Answer 1

You were hustled. Of course she was happy to see you, you spent $400 on her three nights in a row. Kissing, cuddling, whatever...she's just ensuring that you will come back. I hope you've been vaccinated for Hepatitis. :)

You sound lonely and easily impressed. Stay out of strip clubs, you're just going to get your heart broken.

Answer 2

I went on a couple of dates with a stripper, hiking all through the city with her against my side, canoeing, even, out on the lake, making out all over the place, and of course extra stuff in the back booths at the club. Had some real nice moments and conversations, too. But she was always really just hustling me, as making me feel good is pretty much her main profession and identity at this point, I think. I doubt she'll ever go back to school but will, probably spend her 40th birthday there working at the club. I don't feel sorry for her, and overall it was an enjoyable ride, and I'm sure she provides legitimate, healthy release for a lot of old fucks who'd otherwise never get close which is maybe in a way a real contribution to society -- but in the end I just couldn't take the feeling of degradation for the stripper and for myself as I would have to watch her flooze about, seducing random scumbags. It was a real seedy dumpy kind of place, and she was the hottest one by far, and said it was a relief to see a young handsome face with a nice smile, etc...anyway...the answer for me was to see her one last time, talk to her, tell her how I felt and say that I'm the type of guy who needs to here the rejection on no uncertain terms, or let's get together for real...so basically an ultimatum. But the key was to know what was a clear rejection of this attempt or proposal if you will and to not listen to anymore of here seductions but to rather walk out, block her FB, delete everything of her, and move on, try to meet someone real.

Answer 3

Yes, you are obsessed and infatuated with an illusion. The reason why she talks and kisses you is because she can make money off of you. That is what strippers do. They make money by giving men attention ...You ARE buying her time ....you spent $400. Wake up!

Answer 4

no offense but prolly..maybe...... you are slightly geeky with not so great love life.
yes stirippers are all pretty and gorgeous . that's all their job requires.
the more you go there the more money she makes. she needs a lot of tips from you.
you know what? prolly you are not that good looking.
when you run out of money she will start ignoring you.
hunny listen.
find a girl in you real life not a gorgeous pamela lee anderson type of girl. you cannt have them unless you are brad pitt looking or millionaire.
just find a girl that suits you. stop dreaming..........

Answer 5

The more obsessed you are with her, the more money she will make. That's her job and she only sees you as a walking ATM. Once you stop paying for lap dances or run out of money, she will move on to someone else with a fatter wallet.

Answer 6

BUZZZZZZZ!!!!!!! Wake up.... stop dreaming....

You have already spent 400$ whats next? This is her job and she is doing it. Tell her one day that you dont have money and that you have been fired from your job and would she still be nice to you and see her reaction. She will not even look at you.

So just wake up smell the coffee and move on. Its just an infatuation.

Answer 7

obviously your lost, stop going to night club, save those money for your marriage which will bring more dignity for you,the stripper are bored with you, but she have to keep on going, that's there job, she think of you as an investment, like a pot of money, you get me,why not get some descent girl instead, i know its hard but i'm sure you will get one at the end.

Answer 8

Regardless of how you feel for this person, you paid for her time. This sounds like lust to me. I think you might like her simply because of all the attention that she paid to you.

If you really want to find out if there's something there, ask her out, don't just go to her club.

But if I were you, I'm not sure I'd want to go there.

Answer 9

no longer all adult males are like that, i'm a guy and that i change into taught to respect women individuals. the in straight forward words adult males that use strippers/whores/prositutes are those that use women individuals as sex gadgets and function no respect for the girls individuals.

Answer 10

Ask her out you wuss. When she says no see which car is her's and burn it to the ground the next day. When you get out of prison your obsession with her should be over with