would you consider it cheating if the whole time we were broken up, he was messing with her without me knowing (he told me later) and he was telling me he missed me and that he wanted to see me (i had been trying to ignore him the time we were broken up)? In other words, is it possible to mess with someone but really miss, even realize how much you love the one you're with? (He stopped messing with her after he realized this but he did not mess with her while we were together)
2006-11-30 18:27:42 · 24 answers · asked by joey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oops, i mean, "even realize how much you love the one he was with" (me)
2006-11-30 18:28:48 · update #1
he was somewhat friends with this girl... but he's been avoiding her and broke off all contact with her. and things between us are wonderful. i'm not worried about it anymore. i'm just curious what you guys think
2006-11-30 18:39:03 · update #2
I wouldn't call that cheating if you were broken up. And yes, being with the other person could have make him realize how much he missed you and wanted to be with you. It woke him up.
2006-11-30 18:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by r_finewood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I am kind of in the same boat as you, but we are not really back together. We have been broken up for about 6 months now after being together 6 years. We have been still sleeping together and telling each other we love them, but not actually together as a couple.(if that makes sense) He came over the other day and said we needed to talk. He asked me the same question you are, if he sleeps with someone else is he cheating on me? My reply was simply well, if I am sleeping with someone else am I cheating on you? and his reply was yes. So I guess it just depends on you and him. I feel totally cheated on by him. The way I see it if he loves you and misses you, what is he doing with another woman?
2006-11-30 18:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by RachelSusan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he's definitely NOT i love with you.
You don't proclaim your love to someone and poke another.
I wouldn't waste my time.
There are other men out there. Good ones. This one doesn't sound like a good one.
I had this happen to me when I was like 16-17 years old. I was with this 19 guy for like two years almost, we broke up for a short time, two weeks or so and the whole time he was calling me telling me he loved me then when we got back together I found out he was banging some other chick.
Our relationship did not last after that and I have to say I made the perfect choice, to move on.
2006-11-30 18:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say give him another chance. If he wasn't cheating on you during the relationship and he stopped once he realized that you were better for him, he's worthy. Many guys won't admit they were wrong, this one is one of those few rainbow fish in the sea. It doesn't count as unfaithful, unless he was in a relationship with you.
Hope everythign turns out for the best.
2006-11-30 18:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by wise_sage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did he tell you? or did you see him with her? At any rate..broken up is broken up and you both become open to the public so-to-speak,If you can let the past go DO IT and if you love him stay together-get through it and move on-realize that we are only human and we do make mistakes.
2006-11-30 18:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by pammi_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya well my gf broke up with me had some fun with other guy then dumped him and said that she regret that she did that so she returned. well is it cheating? i dont think it is.. does ti hurt.. hell yea ir does. it is possible to mess with others while u still like/miss first one. why? b/c person got bored of first one tried second one to make it no cheating left the first one then realized how dumb it was and regrets adn wants the second chance for first one becuase second one wasnt good at all. it sux.
2006-11-30 18:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by ed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not cheating as you were not together at that time but whould you be with an other person if you loved them that much? I Don't think it is possible. Maybe it is time to move on.
2006-11-30 18:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by sand 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not cheating. You were broken up, end of discussion. Sometimes you have to try something different to find out how good what you had was.
2006-11-30 18:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Guelph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't consider it cheating if you were broken up during that time.
2006-11-30 20:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by mslilbit24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating. He was probably trying to take the pain away by getting someone to take your place in his life but it clearly didn't work.
It is good that he respected you enough to tell you the truth.
2006-11-30 18:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋