him to pay, is this expecting too much?

Question

OK, please let me know if Im just being mean, or if he could be in the wrong. My long term boyfriend of 4 years lives several states away from me right now because he got a really great, well paying job. I cant join him, because I am saving up to afford an apartment out there, and living at my parents home while doing so~yeah its fun. Anyway, we want to see each other and I say I don't have the money, but it would nice if he went and got me a ticket to come out and visit him, considering he has been making a good living and is buying plenty of toys for himself. He agrees, but says he will only pay for up to $200 and all of the tickets cost $300. I tell him I'll give him the extra $100 later when I can afford it and he flies me out to visit for a few weeks. All is good, I fly back. Now, he still continues to buy toys for himself and knows that I am still saving up to move out there,but now he wants this $100 from me. I think that's kind of messed up, since he spends so much on himself, is just forgetting about that $100 so hard? I mean we have been going out so long, and he obviously does not need the money, so what the heck?? I'm still trying to save enough to buy Christmas presents
So anyway, am I being unreasonable??? Should I just pay him the $100??? I told him several times how messed up I thought it was that he would demand such a little amount, but spend $1000 on himself the following week O_o

Answer 1

You agreed to pay the $100, so pay it. But some of your boyfriend's attitude about the whole situation might be a warning sign.

Answer 2

I dont think that you are mean. Me and my girl friend have been doing long distance for over 3 years now. I usually pay for her flights because she does not have such a great job and I make enough money to survive. I been also paying her cell phone bill for the last 2 years just because I Love Her. I would never ask for a dime in return. I think its very selfish of your boyfreind to ask for $100 and spending hundreds of more $$$ on himself. Does he Love You???

Answer 3

well, first i would want to say - he works for this money, so it is his business how to spend them. u shouldn't count his money. but second - this sounds so strange. i know for sure i wouldn't be in this mess - if he wants to see u he should have payed all the ticket price and had been happy to do that. and he should have proposed to do that, not u. but i think now, as soon as u made a deal - he pays 200 u pay 100 i think u should return him. and i don't think u should care how much toys he buys for himself - this is his money. but as to liking him or not - he sounds pretty not nice guy. mayb u consider to find someone else? this situation with money is very unpleasant

Answer 4

If he has so much money why can't you move out there?

You shouldn't have agreed to see him if he wasn't going to pay for it all... especially if he knew that you couldn't afford it. If you agreed to pay him back then it is only fair that you do so.

I say you pay him back and dump his lameass. He sounds very inconsiderate. Men with money are only good to stay with if they treat you like a queen... if they treat you like crap then what is the point?

Answer 5

ummm...he sounds like a selfish guy, but depending on how he grew up it may be hard for him to just let go of money like that. Ask him why it means so much if he's obviously fine without it and go from there.

Answer 6

well to me he's being an asshole. But no i dont think its wrong of you if he cares about you and stuff it should'nt be a problem but it looks like he cares more bout himself but i dont know that i cant say much but i dont believe your doing the wrong thing and i think its messed up he did that.

Answer 7

yes paid hem
and never ask for noting Else if you can't t afford
and joust said, sorry i cant afford it.

Answer 8

don't give it to him.