What would you do? This happened a long time ago, but they were my favorite pants and I had bought them awhile back so I could not buy the same ones. She said she'd give me like 15 bucks for them but to me that didn't seem fair. What would you do in a situation like that? I told her she couldn't borrow any of my clothes anymore and she basically told me that wasn't acceptable.
PS--I'm not friends with this girl anymore...she liked to walk all over me.
2006-11-30 17:59:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She didn't even tell me about the hole. I discovered it myself and she then acted like I was being really mean about it and played it off like it was no big deal.
2006-11-30 18:03:37 · update #1
You should have done the same to her before you ended the friendship.
I would be really pissed if that happened to me because I'm not into smoking at all and it's difficult to find pants that fit me perfectly because I'm petite but my bottom isn't flat.
2006-11-30 18:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Responsible people replace the things they borrow and damage. If she damaged your clothing and would not replace them (or give you the financial equivalent of them), then she's irresponsible. This assumes, of course, that they weren't really worn out and on their last legs.
2. You have every right to set any boundary you want when it comes to your body and your things. If you don't want her to borrow your clothes, that's your right. She can say "that's not acceptable" all she wants, and she certainly has the right to end your friendship over it, but she can't make you change the boundary -- and that was a very reasonable and appropriate boundary given the circumstances.
So, what would I do if my friend damaged my property, didn't do the responsible thing, and gave me a hard time about a boundary I set after she wasn't responsible? I'd dump her like a hot potato, and good riddance. Sounds like you did the same, good for you!
Even when you're young, life's too short to waste on people like that.
2006-11-30 18:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. She was never your friend to start with. If she had been a real friend she would have stepped up to the plate, told you about the hole, and on her own, offered to pay /replace them.
You don't damage someone else's property and then cop an attitude with them when they say something to you about it. She has some brass! Your not allowing her to borrow your clothes is unacceptable?!?!???? If some people had brains they'd be dangerous.
You are well rid of her. With so-called "friends" like that, an enemy would seem like a kitty cat.
2006-11-30 23:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate when that happens. You were her friend, you did her a favor. She goofed then proved she wasn´t that much of a friend after all. Something my parents always instilled me is, "ALWAYS return something borrowed in BETTER shape than it was in when you borrowed it." A REAL friend would´ve said, "I'm sorry I burned a hole in your favorite pants. Let's go shopping and I'll buy you any pair you pick out." Pick who you loan your things to wisely. Some day it might be your car.
2006-11-30 18:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Luna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's so frustrating!
Figure you're the lucky one though, cause it only cost you the price of a pair of jeans to see the true colors of a not so friendly friend. It could have been worse with someone like that, many people have been fu**** over for alot more than that!
2006-11-30 18:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did the right thing,however I would have taken that 15.00 and put it toward having my pants repaired at the cleaners...You learned a good lesson from that experience...Now if anyone ask you to borrow something you can say NO because you had a bad experience once...We learn new lessons every day and they always serve to make us better....Sorry about you pants though.
2006-11-30 18:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule of thumb: Don't lend your clothes. If it was a long time ago, get over it and don't make the same mistake again. Haven't you headr "You should never lend money to a friend?" Same goes for clothes.
2006-11-30 18:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was never a good friend. If something like happens again (where it cannot be replaced) you can always save the incident for later. You may need a favor or something in the future.
2006-11-30 18:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her to buy me a new pair of pants. And her copping a `tude over it was out of line. Consider it a blessing to be rid of her she obviously places no value on your friendship or your stuff.
2006-12-01 00:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds rude and immature.....you were probably lucky to get the fifteen bucks from her.......it's a bummer cuz favorite pieces of clothing are irreplaceable....at the same time, it is a piece of old used clothing-so you're never gonna get the value of it......i think you were right to stop lending her clothes for sure....i think 15 bucks isn't too unfair tho....her attitude however was terrible
2006-11-30 19:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋