This is so backwards, but she doesn't want anything too serious (or so she says, at least not yet) b/c she figures I am too good for her. Now I know what you all think, and I have thought the same thing, but I am now convinced she is the first persin to ever say that and mean it. I am as sure as I can be. So, any suggestions for getting her over this? It's ridiculous, really, but I want her to realize how much I want HER w/out overdoing it. How do I convince/help her let go of this BS idea she has?
2006-11-30 17:59:00 · 6 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot make her get over anything. It is up to her to do. Not you. You have to make her feel comfortable or else she really won't take your offer.
2006-11-30 18:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't directly bring it up. Start doing things that really interest her that you could learn. For example, if she cooks... watch her cook a meal and have her describe things to you, teach you. She needs to feel like she has something to give to you. Some sort of knowledge that she feels confident about. It can be as simple as an easier laundry pattern, or a faster way to change your oil, whatever she is into. Just keep finding things that she can help you improve yourself on. This shows that you have flaws. Telling her that you are not better than her is okay to do, but like the saying goes, actions DO speak louder than words. Plus a woman that thinks you are better then her will have the complexity to think that you are merely saying this to make her feel better. You need to be sneaky in showing her that you are no different then her. Then say things like I am so lucky to have you... or thank you, i never knew that. Just act interested... Just make it look natural, if you really care about her this shouldnt be hard and she will start to see a "weaker" side of you that she may feel more comfortable and equal to. GOOOD LUCK!
2006-11-30 18:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by girl_like_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants something serious ,trust me, if she did'nt she wouldn't be with u. This is a trap. An old one at that. She's pretending not to want anything serious because she knows it will make u want her more . And your'e falling for it ,hook,line and sinker. She doesn't think your'e too good for her either, this is a trick too. She's commitment phobic or she's interested in another guy and trying to hold on to you in case the other one isn't interested.
2006-11-30 18:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by CLAIRE KC1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without overdoing it huh?... hmmm... i unno
if i was you i would not bring it up directly kind of ease into it in a conversation tell her that you could never be to good for her if anything shes too good for you then bring up how you feel and tell her you really think she is right for you and she has no reason to feel inadequate...cause in your eyes shes perfect and youd do anything to get her to realize it...
then if she still does not believe she is good enough for you do something that shows you care could be anything ... something creative to make her feel special and understand she is what you want and in your opinon nothing could ever compare to her
... dont know if that helped if so yay if not sarry i tried... goodluck!
2006-11-30 18:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by arei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The BEST answer is to IGNORE here.....she well then come around. Trust me........she will think you lost interest and start to want you.
2006-11-30 18:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Holly G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that if she "wasnt good enough" (dont use that terminology) then you wouldnt be pursuing her and that you realy like her
2006-11-30 18:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by baronbabec14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋