Im just a carpenter but she is from a wealthy family. I love her but If I propose we will be ostracized. Her family thinks I'm beneath her. Im not a politician, doctor or a lawyer, I just build the nice things they enjoy.
Can I prove my self to them? or just marie thier daughter, or alow her to meet a man that can provide her a finantialy sound future?
2006-11-30 17:50:57 · 17 answers · asked by morbidsmindtrip 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You made me flash on the 1966 Bobby Darin song ... "If I Were a Carpenter."
Sounds like you may have cold feet. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this women or not? If so ... set a date. If not let her know.
2006-11-30 18:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after 3 years I think it is plain to see you have an established relationship. If you worry about her family you will have an unhappy life. Be happy. Marry the girl you love. Money is not everything. Don't say "just a carpenter". Jesus was a carpenter, my Daddy is a carpenter, and I think the profession is cool. It gives you big biceps, too! Be proud to be a carpenter, it takes great skill. Too bad for them if they [parents] don't accept that.
2006-12-01 03:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be a wonderful thing for a couple. It represents stability and commitment in a relationship, as well as opens doors to creating a solid relationship between both of your families. Marriage lets each other know you plan on being together forever, and it sends out a "hands-off" message to previous lovers and prospective suitors. If you think you're really ready to live this kind of life and commit yourself to one person sexually, emotionally and all other ways - then GO FOR IT! Anyone who can handle it will prove themselves worthy. Treat your honey RIGHT and make sure everyone including your honey knows that YOU are better than the rest and you are the right person.
2006-12-01 19:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun you only have to prove yourself to your woman, and I think you've allready done that cause she wants to marry you, as hard as it sounds, try to switch off to her parents expectations and maybe just take off secretly and get married, as long as you 2 are happy, im sure things will be fine. Don't put yourself down as ONLY a carpenter.. thats a skillful trade and if you love doing it and your good at it , well you should be very proud. The simple things in life are often the best, and did you know the love of money is the root of all evil, so to hell with her rich snotty parents..lol You marry that girl cause you have everything she needs, obviously!!!
2006-12-01 03:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to marry you, right? So, she's picked you and not some doctor, politician or lawyer. You may not be able to provide a mansion for her, but can you provide a stable income. Between the two of you, will your bills be paid, your stomach's filled? If yes then why not get married. Don't let other people dictate if you get married. Focus on the two of you and what you want.
2006-12-01 10:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve her. That is something that you need to honestly beleive before you do anything else. Family will always be the largest hurdle to overcome when it comes to relationships, especially marriage. You should not have to chose your wife based on your professions. There are many people that have very different jobs that just fufill the missing piece to each other. Of course financial differences will come up, but you are a hard worker and as long as you remain dedicated to her and making sure that YOU TWO are happy, things can work out. It natural to question things when there is a strong persistence of future family, but don't allow yourself to give up something that you love, and have loved for three years because of her parents. Just remember, YOU DESERVE HER, JUST AS MUCH AS SHE DESERVES YOU.
2006-12-01 01:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by girl_like_you 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been with her 3 years so I am assuming you know her parents. I'm sure they are aware that eventually things would be getting more serious between you two. And what your saying is because you're a carpenter you can't provide her with a good future? That's preposterous! When she needs money she'll ask her mummy and daddy!
2006-12-01 01:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by YourMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 1957, 49 years ago I was in the same position but it was my husbands parent's, mostly his mother that thought I was beneath them. So guess what? We eloped and we are living happily ever after. They eventually accepted me on my terms not theirs. After all was said and done we got all the gifts we needed to set up our household. My family gave us a small reception after we were married. You don't need to prove your self to them. Let them live and learn. Together you will make you own life and it will be good.
2006-12-01 03:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you guys want to get married do it! you may never be able to prove yourself to her family. you just need to be friendly, and nice with them. they will come around once they know you are going to be in her life forever. my FIL is a carpenter, actually he is helping us build our house! it is a very important job, what would we do without shelter?
marry that woman!
2006-12-01 10:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
carpenters make money too!!! and if she wants to marry you, and you her, than her family will just have to deal!! it is about the love the two of you share!!! treat her well, and her family will coem to see that you are the perfect man for her!! good luck, and do what your hear tells you to do!!
2006-12-01 12:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋