The police said i'm an unfit gaurdian?

Question

Okay, my grandson has been through hell and back - rape, abuse, you name it, he's experienced it. Not to mention the abuse my own husband put him through when he was in the house. The guy is in jail now, but the police are saying I'm an unfit gaurdian.

I mean, I know he tried to commit suicide, but I have helped him in every way possible. I've gotten him coucling and other help, and they just yanked him out and put him in foster care!

What should I do?

I was the one who filed the damn police report, I got him arrested! I got him councling, and I didn't turn a blind eye to the abuse!

Answer 1

First of all the best way you could possibly have helped your Grandson was by NOT having him in the house to begin with. You should have found a safer environment for your grandchild to live in. How could you have let your Grandson stay in the same house in the first place while your husband abused him? You say you did everything you could to help? You didnt help your grandchild at all by bringing him into another unsafe environment.

So therefore you are negligent for letting this happen. You would have helped him every way possible BY NOT letting him come into your home and receive more abuse. If foster care will put him into a safer environment and give him life skills then so be it. You have no right to intervene. Let him receive the counselling without your influence and find a better home that will give him the love and care without the abuse from your other family members

Answer 2

I'm not sure if the policeman said it because he genuinely felt you were unfit, or because he was upset by the whole thing, but, excuse me for saying so, it's probably both.

I think you should accept their decision. If you really value his life you will cooperate with the police and won't try to obstruct them.

As some of the answerers have said or hinted, the police don't do this lightly, so the situation was extremely serious.

Remember this isn't just about now, it is about Grandson's life.

Answer 3

I don't know the whole story but if your doing the right thing then it will work out. Get a lawyer. Your husband is probably making allegations against you also,since he's mad that you had him arrested.He's probably just in foster care until the state decides who he will be best to live with. They do this to protect the child.

Answer 4

candy: The police have experienced hundreds of cases like yours. When they say you are "unfit", they know what they are talking about. You fail to see yourself in the problem over all, and only, see yourself as the solution to the problem. To see yourself, as you really need to,( for you to be able to be of any help to your grand son), will require you to undergo counselling and to keep your husband away from him ! You keep your husband away from your grand son, by not allowing your husband back into your home . Your grand son is not too far away from killing himself at this point in his life . Be extremely glad the police rescued him from your problem home before he did kill himself .

Answer 5

What happened that you did not stop your husband from abusing him? This is the saddest thing I have ever read. The police think you should have protected him better than you did. This is referred to as guilty by omission, meaning you did nothing to stop it from happening.

Answer 6

Get yourself a lawyer to fight for your rights. I commend you for what you have done for this child.

Answer 7

get a lawer and say he has nobody else in the world, and you would take him from the only person who loves him, who understands him, his own family, he doesnt need anymore emotional torture, i just want to do what is best for him, if that means taking him away from me, but i believe that is not best for him, i love him so much i am willing to give him up